what would you do?
By dolce_vita78
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
Philippines
June 14, 2007 6:26am CST
suppose you found your friend lying about so many things about himself/herself and/or everyone else, what would you do?i have this friend who i really enjoyed being with because he's really funny and nice to be with. we were introduced by common friends. at first, i (and our other friends) enjoy listening to his stories about himself, his friends and his family. he would always join us for our night outs or house parties.
earlier this year, we have noticed that there was something different about his actions and we also have observed that there were so many inconsistencies in the things he's been telling us. a couple of months ago, he invited us to his hometown and that's where we realized that most, if not all, of the things he told us about himself weren't true. he even told us he'd be leaving for abroad very soon but then again, there were inconsistencies in what he told us. sure, he told us he'd be leaving for abroad. he told me that he'd be flying to australia, then he told our other friends, he'd be going to hong kong, then our other friends were told that he'd be going to canada, then he told my boyfriend that he'd be going to macau.
since we started asking him questions about where he'll really go, he started avoiding us..
if you were in the same situation as i am (or as we are), what would you do?
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11 responses
@g3n3j0rd (721)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
If that is the case, I would be tolerant whatever he tells about himself. Since he doesn't ask for anything, I would continue to enjoy his company. However, it seems like he's the one trying to avoid you based on your responses to other comments. Maybe, he was hurt. I hope your friendship would go back to where it was but just be cautious.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
well, i don't think he would borrow money for now because he has always given us the impression that he has all the money in the world, if you know what i mean... i don't think he would hurt his own ego by borrowing money from anyone in the group. lol
thanks for the advice
@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
since you have been friends for quite sometime, you've got a right to ask him the true answers to your questions. if he is continuously avoiding you let him do that for a while until he finds time to talk to you again. i guess, from his lying about where he'll go, he's just begging for attention.
there's no guarantee that he'll stop lying, and I think he's just making an "honest" change because he got caught lying. it's just for attention.
on the other hand, he may have some problems that he just couldn't air them out. invite him once more for a serious talk. he may be needing a support system from his friends, your group particularly.
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@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
well, let him do what he wants. time comes he will realize his own faults and shortcomings. don't bother yourself asking him again or perhaps going with him anymore. i think he will just come to your help when the need arises.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
i have tried several times to talk to him about whatever is bothering him. whenever i do, he would ask "what makes you say that i have a problem?" or "me? bothered? no way!".
maybe, somebody else could talk to him about what's going on. we tried, we really did...
yes, i agree that he was just seeking for attention and he was successful at that.. lol
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
we really would like to help him. we tried... i tried... but he just keeps avoiding us..
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Thats a tough one dolce as it sounds like he is a compulsive liar (if thats the term to use - it may be too harsh). Maybe he has some underlying issues?!? Since he is avoiding you, i would probably just leave it at that, I mean you can still be friends but I doubt that you will ever believe anything that came out of his mouth anymore.
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@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
yeah, i think we could still be friends but things will never be the same... thanks
@gsgonzalez2007 (1004)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
I will not do anything, I'll just observe him. However, my impression of him will become different. My impression will be based on what he says and what he really does. I won't say anything about what I discovered about him, because it is he who is trying to destroy himself, not me.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
14 Jun 07
If I were in the same situation, I would still consider him as my good friend, but I wouldn't completely believe him. I would only think of him as a friend who loves joking and talking big for fun. I would not be so serious about his words. We have friends of different kinds in life with different characters.
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@sensesfail (2251)
• India
15 Jun 07
I would not consider a friend at all cuz a friend is a person who does not lie and I'd avoid him as far as possible cuz he could more than just a liar.
People who lie just like changing clothes could be definitely dangerous than those who lie when they are desperate.
@polofield32 (346)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
i would avoid him before he/she can make me believe to his/her world of lies. it is difficult to avoid him/her at first but i need to end it before i can say things directly to him/her.
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@pam_d_gr8 (50)
• India
15 Jun 07
well i think if u want to continue ur friendship with him then dont ignore him but instead make him feel everytime he tell lie dat u know dat he is telling lie..hope this wud help...it had worked wid me...
@melissa911 (92)
• United States
14 Jun 07
If he lies about everythign you are never going to be able to take him serious. He can be your friend, But I would not take any advise from someone that you know to be lieing. That doesn't make him any less fun. But it does make him a little less trusting. Dont you think?
@feedyourmind (150)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
if i were you, i wont talk to her/him anymore, really liar just trying to have you as a friend because of benefits. he is not into true friendship. you should tell your friends to evade him/her.
