What will you tell your children about your past?
June 17, 2007 2:48am CST
Everyone has secrets! And, that includes parents. So, do you share these secrets with your children once they are old enough and hope they understand your decisions? Or, keep your secrets? What will you tell your children about your past? Do you feel it would burden a child if you shared with them? Or help them make better choices in their own lives?
2 people like this
• South Africa
17 Jun 07
Well, I am blessed that I do not have secrets that I need to one day open up and share with my kids... who I was and who i am today is pretty much the same I have nothing that I have to expose to them and hope that someday they will understand. I am open and honest with myself and with my children and family... no secrets... even my 5 year old son that is adopted already knows that he is adopted... there are no secrets and I believe that that is the way it should be.
• United States
18 Jun 07
I think that when my son is old enough to ask about certain things, I will tell him. There's nothing really in my past that I'm ashamed of. There are some things that I probably wouldn't tell my children, though. If my husband and I are fighting, the children wouldn't need to know why. Things like that. But for the most part, I do plan on being completely honest with my kids. There is no reason to lie to them.
18 Jun 07
i think it will help the children to make better choices in their lives if you will tell what happen at the past. if you have a nice and good past it will also inspire them. i dont hide anything from my kids, i dont want nosey relatives will tell them. (do you have nosey relatives?) i tell them all and i tell the truth. my mom doesnt agree to this much but because they are old fashion. i dont want my kids to hide secrets from me too so i think i should be the one to start being honest
17 Jun 07
one of the charecteristics of a family is that it keeps secrets. I would say the more dysfunctional the family, the more secrets they have. Of course, my family has its fare share of secrets and im sure my parents had too but we never got to see them. blessed be