Life's mistakes

@cdparazo (5765)
Philippines
June 18, 2007 8:02am CST
We make a lot of mistakes and a lot of us would just want to forget them and then move on with our lives. However, there are just some people who keeps reminding us of our mistakes and won't let us forget them. How do you deal with those people? As for me, I just give them a good piece of my mind and then just walk away. If i need to apologize for it, I would apologize and would have the matter closed. I certainly don't want it brought up every time they get hung up again over something.
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14 responses
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
19 Jun 07
I can deal with someone telling me "you did this wrong" once or twice etc...and if that mistake implied hurting that person, then a few more times. But once i talk it over with the person and she or he says, ok let's move on, if she keeps on hammering me away iwth it i will react and say "hey i thought we had moved on, i am sorry for what i did, but it's OVER k?". One cannot live regretfully all his her life, it's exhausting and useless.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
I see what you mean. I would do the same too in that case. No use crying over spilt milk so to say but would rather clean it all up.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
20 Jun 07
exactly what i think.
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• India
19 Jun 07
Veyy nice and intellegent. I will try to follw the same.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
What particular response are you referring about?
@ebenjie (440)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
its life. we met people with different personality and not knowing whose gonna leave or whose gonna stay in our life. just lived life with purpose.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
You so hit it on the head. Focusing our energy on life and how to make it more meaningful is certainly way better.
@xpac_25 (74)
• India
19 Jun 07
you are absolutely right... there are people who pretend to care us.. but all they do is just blame us for everything we do and keep pointing out the mistakes rather than understanding us and the purpose of our actions... its best to avoid them.. but its not always easy to do that especially when it is someone close and we might not want them to feel bad...
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I get to be more direct and confrontational if its someone close to me who is like that like my parents. I tell them that they don't need to rehash my mistakes all the time since I have learned my lessons. I know that most of the time and deep inside, they are really afraid for me. Sometimes all they just need is reassurance too.
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Everybody makes their mistakes. If someone keeps on reminding me I say "Oh yeah? Well sorry" What If that someone wont stop reminding? I will go straight and ask him/her why wont he forget? Since I like apologized a hundred times.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
That is indeed a very direct way of handling such kind of people. I bet they would be in the hot seat too and won't like it and might stop bringing it up again.
@dio123 (1788)
• India
19 Jun 07
No body is perfect and every one is bound to do some mistake now and then through out his or her life, the only thing we can do is before taking any action or any dicision small or big think several times and then act, it may reduce chances of mistakes The Old Saying is always help "Learn From your Mistake" and "Do not Repeat the Mistake"
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Yes we should learn from our mistakes and making the same mistake for the 2nd time around means we didn't just learn anything.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
19 Jun 07
i know this will sound maybe bad but i ignore it.. than finally the person just lets it go... kinda funny but it works...
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I don't really see that it's bad. To the contrary, I find that to be a good way of handling it.
@bhawnam (1436)
• India
18 Jun 07
look a man is made to make mistakes.. if he made none then he would be equal to God... even i have made some mistakes and whenever i realise i have made a mistake the first thing i do is to try to set it right... and maybe say sorry if it makes a difference and tehn if someone tries to remind me what i did i just think about it and then think what all i did to set it right and then wouldn't try to explain again why i did it or that i was sorry for that.. instead i would turn the topic.. probably to a mistake that same person commited sometime in his life.. and then tell him that everyone makes mistakes.. its normal so dont worry and chill.. !!
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
OK i'll chill. LOL! Seriously, that is a very good attitude that you have and thanks for sharing!
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
i would suggest that you call it shortcomings and not mistakes,just being positive with the words we use.if you can accept and understand those shortcomings then you won't be bothered by your friend's comments because you are comfortable with it already,just a suggestion.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
All suggestions are welcome and I always find it good to know such a person who always thinks positively of things. I consider myself positive but I am not perfect and have my own shortcomings. Thanks for reminding me!
@pelo26 (1552)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Nobody's perfect and everyone of us has made mistakes sometime in our past. What's important is that we learn from our past mistakes and never repeat them. There will be those people who would keep us reminding of those mistakes... Just let them., take it as a good reminder so we won't forget.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
You may have a very good point. But most of the time those who keeps reminding us are doing it out of spite or insecurity and wants to hurt us. I just hope the motive is good whenever they get to remind us.
• Lincoln, Nebraska
18 Jun 07
Sometimes it is good to be reminded of mistakes. The thing about mistakes is that we should learn from them so that we don't repeat them again. Remember everything happens for a reason. As for dealing with people who keep reminding me of my mistakes I either tell them that I already learned a lesson from these mistakes and to stop bringing them up or I simply just walk away. If I make a mistake and it hurts someone I apologize and try to make retribution of some kind. There is nothing worse to be reminded of something that I already know.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
What's worse, if we still need to forgive ourself for making such a mistake. It just make things harder for us to forgive ourselves. Well, that's what happened to me. But its water under the bridge now and I did learn my lesson.
• United States
18 Jun 07
Yes, we all make mistakes in our lifetime. Some big mistakes, some small mistakes. If I were judged on the mistakes I made in my life, I would just not have a relationship with those people who are judging me. You can not tell me that someone is so perfect that they have never made a mistake in their lifetime. I think that as long as you learn from your mistakes, then your life will be better for it. Those people who judge on mistakes, are not worth my time listening to them hound me about my mistakes.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I so agree with you. We are NOT our mistakes. They don't define us or make us the person that we are. But defines us is the choices and the learnings that we made. We may have made a BIG mistake but the reasons we have in making such choices is the ones that is important. There is definitely more to you and me than our mistakes put together.
@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Yup, it's such a nuisance when a person keeps on reminding past mistakes. I would probably have to talk it out with the person. I'd say, "Hey! I've already owned up to my mistake and I am trying to make up for it, enough already!" LOL!
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I did say a lot of times, to my parents while growing up!. I hope I'm never gonna have to say it ever again.
• United States
18 Jun 07
ya mistakes are often committed by us all. so there is nothing to worry much about. if i were to be in ur position i wud have just sat with that person and give him my part of the explanation and ask him to forgive me so that it doesnt arise again. and as u have asked for forgive ness the other person wont pester u much..
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I wish! Anyway, people are different from all over. It's how we deal with them that is important. Either we could take it positively or negatively.