Anyone Here Trying To Get Over Someone???

wow! 4 years is such a long time to be holding on to the pain and to the one who caused it. it must really be painful. but it is not healthy either. i know it is easier said than done, but i will say it just the same...let it go, for your own sake. try as hard as you can not to dwell on the past and stay away from the things that could remind you of the person and the things he has done to you. i had a painful breakup two years ago and it also took a while for me to overcome the pain but what i did was destroyed everything that reminds me of him. talking about my feelings, i.e anger, pain, etc. and writing about it helped me a lot also. talk to your friends about it, but choose the people you are going to share it with. choose those who will just listen and not those who will flame the smoke. you may want to write a letter to him, just write down everything you wanted to tell him, write your anger, your pain but DO NOT send him the letter...the letter is just to help you ease out the pain....try it...it helped me... i hope it helps you too...and most importantly...surrender your pain to God in prayer.

Sometimes it takes people longer then others.I hear it all the time people telling me to get over it but sometimes that is a lot easier said then done.

I am so sorry you are having this emotional pain inside you. Let time be the best solution to forget about this person. Men are so selfish and don't understand us, but you will find someone that will love you very much and care for you. Don't feel bad or bothered because of him.

It took me five long years before I totally got over my previous bf. I did love the guy deeply but then I knew we were really never meant to be as a married couple. What made me move on and get over the guy? Well, I found someone who was totally in sync with me. He was someone who made me forget the painful memories of my past relationship. We finally tied the knot and right now, I am very happy with my husband. As for my ex, well, he is left to think of the "what ifs". hehehe... :)

i hope you are feeling better now. it will really take a while before you can finally and confidently say that you're really over him and the pain he has caused you. i know i am not in the position to give you advice but let me just give you some insights. there are a number of reasons why we find it very difficult to let go, especially of someone who meant a lot to us. it is not easy to let go of the love we had for the person no matter how much pain he has caused us. but the first step to letting go is to let go of the emotional attachment we have for the person. there is no reason to invest further on the meotional bank if the person choose to leave us. it's not going to be easy but it's not impossible to accomplish either. after the love is gone, then hatred comes. it is not wrong to hate someone who has caused us pain, but we should not be a slave of it either to the point that we would want to seek revenge. revenge is not going to bring us anywhere, it will just complicate matters. there are other ways to express anger and hatred without having to avenge. not being able to retaliate does not mean that we are weak or we have accepted defeat. on the contrary, victory means the ability to control our negative emotion making it an opportunity for us to become a stronger and better person. at some point during the process of letting go, we will find ourselves ready too grant forgiveness. this is the time that the pain has slowly gone down and we are on our way to moving on with our lives. forgiving does not mean forgetting, but even if we do not forget, even if we keep on remembering the pain, it is when we finally forgive that we learn to love even more. the process of healing and letting go is not easy and you need someone where you can draw strength from. ask God to give you this strength. come before God in prayer, talk to Him, and when you do, just be yourself and let it all out. allow yourself to be comforted by His abounding love. God bless you.

your love story might not end the you wanted it to be,but always stick into your mind that everything happens for a reason...that particular incident will lead you to the person that is really meant for you..besides,if your destined to be together,even if you two has been separated for a 100 years,your path will crossed again and love will find its way to bring the both of you back together.. Love takes time to heal when you have been hurt so much... dont force your self to forget some1..coz that is not helpful,and its unhealthy..its more relieving if you let it surpass naturally...heal it in a healthy way..make your self busy,..you know what,after my bf dumped me last january,i joined the school theater,i got in and last march we had a show and that was my big break..my emotions became useful,hehehehehe...coz i really cried on my part,thats where i put all the sorrow he gave me..after the shows,he keep on calling me,and trying to win me back,NO WAY!,i became famous in the campus..hehehe!!!i thanked him,because if he never did that(dumped me)definitly i wasnt the one on the stage watched by the entire campus recieving applause and compliments to that particular scene where im doing a monolog coz i portrayed the role of a women who was abandoned by her husband and bit gone crazy..tears were real coz real emotion what i put on the character.!!heheh...just sharing my story! anyway... never forget to pray...it helps..!!and be positive..and just be thankful that god gave you the chance to be w/ that person dont get mad to the person,thank him instead as he taught you how to love.about the promises,..promises are made to be broken,...never expect to much,thats one of the reasons why we are always get hurt,we expect too much to our partner and when that person cannot manage to reach your expectations,it hurts us,but its our fault!!learn How to love w/o expecting something in return..thats more what you can call TRUE love,,