How do you feel to speak to your ex?

@jade1986 (567)
India
June 21, 2007 5:58am CST
Can you and your ex ever be friends...? Or would you keep the brunts and grudges forever, especially if he/she had ditched you? If such has not happened in your life, then just imagine, some one had ditched you and after 1 year of no contacts you need to speak again. How would you feel?
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9 responses
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Well as for me I see no problem to that. Talking through experience, my ex-husband and I have been separated for 7 years now due to annulment. Actually when I was in the mids of deserning whether to file an annulment or not I first undergo the process of self-healing and acceptance. And when I learn to accept things and trials positively as they come into my life,and look on the blessing and learnings that I received because of that negative event, I choose to be happy by being his friend. In this way, I don't have excess baggage nor resentment. I did not think of the ways to get even with him, instead, I think of the way on how to understand him and work with him with regards to the welfare of our children. I said to myself, "I can not cry over a spilled milk", and with this I gained peace of mind and joy of heart. So, you see, its a matter of choice as I always say.
@jenni23 (26)
• United States
21 Jun 07
i choose not to have contact my ex bf anymore beacause my feeligns might come back..im the one who broke up our relationship for some reason eventhough i love him ..im happily married now and dont want him to interfere again to my life..
@paulsy (1265)
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
Well, I guess I would prefer not to see him at all. I have moved on, and things are a lot better in my life now. I have to thank him, though, because if I didn't go through 12 years of miserable life with him I would probably never realize and thank God for giving me the time and chance to still "see the sun after the long rainy days". For me now, life is so beautiful! I don't think my ex and I could ever be friends again, but if I ever saw him again, I will thank him for all the pain and the misery, because it taught me to appreciate even the tiniest wonderful things that come my way every single day of my life.
@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
21 Jun 07
Me and my ex haven't talked or seen each other in a little over a year. And the last time I did see him we just ran into each other at the grocery store. We don't have any hard feelings towards each other. We just both have moved on. He is now married and I am now engaged and have a baby. We had a mutual break up and it was for the best. We said when we broke up we would remain friends. We kept in good contact until we both moved on. We have quit keeping in contact just out of respect for our significant others.
@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
21 Jun 07
Once in a while when I go on my MSN, he's also there so we talk and give news to each other. I speak to him maybe 3 month ago and before that it was 1 year 1/2 ago lol. WE broke up 4 years ago. I only like to have news. WE didnt saw each other for a while and I don't need to see him. WE are still friend, but kinda msn friend lol
• Sweden
21 Jun 07
I talk to my ex sometimes, not very often. We are friends but we not met.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I had to get over my hard feelings towards my ex wife because of my children. Holding a grudge isn't good for a person. It can make you bitter. My ex wife and I are always civil to one another. If it wasn't for the children that we share we wouldn't have anything to do with one another.
• Philippines
21 Jun 07
well, it really depends on how you still feel about your ex. some of my ex boyfriends...i can still talk to without feeling uncomfortable. but i have ex boyfriends that i don't speak to anymore, or i avoid to speak to. not because i still harbor feelings for them but i already feel uncomfortable to do so....with regards to their attitude or maybe how we broke up. so it's a case to case basis actually.
@classy56 (2884)
• United States
21 Jun 07
i left my ex 15 years time ago an i have only seen him 2 times since then.That is only because the kids were sick.We can be friends "but i choose not to".I feel if i wanted him into my life i would have stayed married to him.Even today when i talk to him i feel nothing.its something that is hard to explain".But alot of couples can still be friends with there ex.they have to be if they have small children together.