My daughter tells the truth. . .almost all of the time!
By amaleigh73
@amaleigh73 (499)
United States
June 21, 2007 6:45am CST
My sister-in-law called me last night saying that her daughter (just turned 5) told her that my daughter (4 years old) used an ink stamp on their wall last week. My mother-in-law watches my kids at their house on Thursdays and when I to pick them up, my niece was playing at the top of the steps with ink stamps and other assorted toys. My sister-in-law wanted me to ask my daughter if she did it. I asked her and my daughter said no, she didn't do it. My sister-in-law sounded skeptical, but thanked me for asking and hung up. I asked my daughter again, and she again, said no she didn't do it. I know that my sister-in-law said that her daughter has had a lot of trouble with lying in the past, but I was surprised that she brought my daughter into it and not her older sister. This morning I got an email saying that my niece confessed to doing it. She is 5 years old and knew exactly what she was trying to do, get my daughter in trouble. Would you say anything to her? Her parents have a history of not disciplining and letting things go. If I say something, I'm not going to yell at her, just say something about how unkind it was to try to get my daughter in trouble for something she did. Or would you just drop it?
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@anij34 (317)
• United States
21 Jun 07
This sounds exactly like my daughter who is 5 and my niece who is 6. My niece is a lieing little brat and likes to try to get my daughter in trouble all the time. I dislike them playing together but sometimes when my daughter is over at my moms house and my sister in law will bring my niece over.
My niece will just grab a pair of scissors and cut her own hair, ALL THE TIME! My daughter did that last year ONCE and she will never do it again. She got in so much trouble for doing it. But the most frustrating part is that my niece will tell my daughter to do something she knows is wrong and then say "But don't tell your mom". My daughter will confide in me what my niece says. Luckily my daughter is pretty good at saying "no thats wrong we can't do that".
Frustrating but its part of the whole growing up thing.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I would let the parent know that it was not your child but hers and then I would probably talk to the kid as well. I think that if you can get accross to her that she could get her cousin in trouble the child may think twice.
The other thing I wanted to let you know that if you keep talking to your child about being honest and telling the trueth it will carry over to their teen years. My daughter is sixteen and when confronted by me on something that she did wrong she will confess. She knows that the punishment she gets for telling the trueth is much lighter than the punishment she will get if she lies. We have a very good communication skills. I am not saying we do not have our problems but it is a lot easier when you can talk openly about anything with your child.
@akd_71 (29)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 07
depend on ur relationship with your sis-in-law, will she mind you doing it?
my opinion.. since ur daug will obviously spent more time with her cousin.. go ahead and tell her, most of the time a child will listen more to others than their parents. stop it right now instead of later when she could influence ur daug.
