Fall out of love???

Canada
June 21, 2007 12:13pm CST
When you are with someone for a long time and you really, relaly love them, do you ever lose that "spark"??? I have been with my significant other for going on 4 years now, but I already find myself not wanting him at all. I don't even know if I ever really got that yearning for him before. I mean I love him with all my heart, but I judt don't think we are supposed to be together?? I am very confused. I thought people were suppoed to stay happy and yearn for eachother forever (if they are the right for eachother). Am I mistaken, or is this normal to not have that "spark" in your relationship? All input is really, really appreciated. This is not a new feeling to me, but I am thinking that I should take action on making myself happy again, and I don't know if he is going to be the one to do it for me. PS. We have a 3 year old together.
5 responses
• Romania
28 Jun 07
ps:you have a child with that man...think twice before making a decision.
• Romania
28 Jun 07
i like to think that true love lasts forever and each one of us has its soul mate.but is it really true or is just what fairy tales tell us?in my opinion true love means not losing that spark you are talking about.try to find your soul mate if you believe in things like this.you should know that even soul mates argue sometimes and have their problems...perfection doesn't exist.
• United States
23 Jun 07
i have been with my boyfriend 5 yrs we have a yr old daughter all we do is fight if i try to talk to him he get on the computer heck we dont even sleep in same room together anymore so i think our spark may be gone
• United States
21 Jun 07
Relationships dont stay perfect forever and they do loose they're spark, A relationship is something that you haft to work at. It doesn't always come easy. You will have up and down moments, but if you love him then you will find ways to get the spark back in you relationship. I look at it like this, I see old people sitting around holding hands, You know they have had to work for a very long time to keep what they have. But it can be done.
@foogirl (87)
• United States
21 Jun 07
I've been with my significant other for 11 years. 3 years of dating and 8 married. I have to say that he's the only one that has ever "sparked" me like I've never been before. We both naturally have that for each other (thank goodness) But being in love is like work too...at least it is IMO. You have to keep on wanting it and working for it. Especially since you have a child together (we have a 4 year old). It's so easy to get caught up in everyday life and getting used to each other. You have to work on finding things about your partner that you love and would miss if they weren't around anymore. I think that if you don't have that already, and don't want to take the time for that person, then it's time to work on getting out of a relationship...otherwise you won't be happy and you may end up hating them. That would NOT be good since you have a child together. Well, this is just how I feel about it. I hope it helps you out and wish you lots of luck. It's not fun being with someone that you don't really even like.