Teen Boys and getting in on theirs lives

United States
June 22, 2007 1:32pm CST
I have a 15 year old son. He has always been very close to me, but when he bacame a teen it seemed as though the strong bond we had was slipping away. I had decided to become interested in the things he likes and get back to where I was included in his life. I became interested in almost everything he was interested in. And, he started opening up to me and telling me about everything going on in his life, even asking different questions about his body(personal things). He respects my house rules and so does his friends.He respects me as a mom and doesn't cross the boundaries of me being his mom. He asks me about drugs and alcohol and their effects, and even told me he thought of trying them before. He wouldn't do it because he wanted to ask me my thoughts. I am not saying this is all out fix for teens, but it has helped me considerably with him. Before all of this he was always angry at me for not understanding him, and thinking I was too old to understand what he was going through. he had huge tantrums and would throw things and run off on me. He absolutely hated me, and he hated the fact that we could nolonger talk like we used to and hang out together. If we tried to talk together it ended up being a huge disagreement and we would both end up mad at each other. I feel that I got rid of the generation gap and have a more quality relationship with my son. He now hugs me and tells me he loves me, and even begs me to go to the mall with him. I'm wondering if any other mothers out there have closed the gap to help their teen through their teen years.
1 response
• India
22 Jun 07
Hi.My name is guru and I am 18 years old.I am running in the same track as your son.But my lifestyle is aa bit different.I am not with my parents but with my aunt.Though she is caring for me much I still yearn for my parents love.You and your son are very lucky.......keep messaging
• United States
22 Jun 07
Thanks guru. As I tell my own kids be thankful for the ones who really do love you and don't dwell on the ones who don't you only have one life, and live it to the fullest with no regrets. I too had a mom who didn't want me when I was a child and I have turned out pretty good. At some point in your life your parents will come around and be what you need in life. My mom finally did and it took having grandkids to open her eyes to what she was missing out on. Take care!!!