HE isn't FREE

the other woman - ....when he's not free nad you want him....
Philippines
June 22, 2007 11:15pm CST
... He can't be mine, I know that, but I want him, I need him, I love him. And he wants me too, it's just that he doesn't wanna let go of his girlfriend, but I know he loves me, in fact he's dating me ... HAVE YOU HEARD your friend tell you all these? How did you deal with her? What advice did you give her? Did it help her let go? Or did she stubbornly go with the flow and had herself hurt in the process? I really need your advice now, it will help a lot. Thank you very much.
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@misshoney (973)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
If your friend is quite stubborn, immature and really in love with this committed guy, then I think nothing you can say to her at the moment will change her mind. What you can do is to pray for her and keep on telling her the consequences of what she's doing. It probably seems like she is not listening but I think she is. Just tell her not do anything that she will regret in the end. Let her be responsible for her own actions and hope she be wise enough not to do anything stupid.
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
YES, you are very right, I know nothing I say would matter to her now, I might as well talk to my hand. Anyway, i'll continue hoping and praying that she'll get out of this intact and not torn into pieces. Thanks for your reply... :D
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• Austria
23 Jun 07
I'd tell her to grow up. This sounds like teenage infatuation. If the guy can't commit to her, is still with the other person, how much does he really love your friend. If he really loved her, he'd be with her. Sounds like he just wants to be with many women to satisfy himself.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 07
yeah, I guess you're right, she's being immature and rather stupid right now, I think she really needs a little bump in the head... Thanks for your reply.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
23 Jun 07
The advice I would give her, is that if he is dating you and loves you, why is he still with another woman? If he is doing that to her, what makes you think he could ever be faithful to you? There is only so much we can do and say for our friends. In the end it is their own decision and we must be there to help mend the pieces of their broken heart. If a man truly loves a woman he will be with her and only her. No excuses, no exceptions.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 07
You're right Mishee, and I'm sure she realizes that too, certain that she knows she's in the losing end. But she prefers to be blinded, to be stubborn.... Oh well... Thanks for your reply hun...
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• Canada
23 Jun 07
He's not totally in love with me unless he can commit. He is not in love with her unless he can commit. If he can't commit to me, but he can't commit to her either, then he is not in love with either of us. I am lucky that my boyfriend and I love only eachother, and no one else.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 07
You're right, you're lucky... I envy you :)
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@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
28 Jun 07
This is not so good. I can't believe you would let yourself fall for your friend's boyfriend. That is just wrong. The only way to get out of this is to let your friend know what is going on and let her make the decision. And if she leaves him then that is good for you then. Good luck.
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
Uh uh.. I think you got that wrong... I guess you need to read again :(
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