Are you shy? How to overcome shyness?

@mari123 (1862)
China
June 23, 2007 2:53am CST
We all have experienced or heard the following talks If only I had told her "love her" we would have gotten married. If only I had accepted as an all-hand annual party speaker, I woud have gotten a promotion. If only I had raised my hand to ask or answer more questions in the class, my marks would have been excellent. If only I had banged on my boss' door for a raise, I would have gotten it. others, All roads of those if-only-things lead to Rome of shyness. You see, shyness is not just a tiny hurdle, but a giant roadblock; Shyness is not just a slight cough or sneeze, but a serious disease How do we break through the barrier? How do we cure the disease? How do we overcome shyness?
2 responses
@Cognition (195)
• Norway
11 Sep 07
You've got to confront your shyness head on, I think. I used to be shy once, but then I started going out every weekend with my shy mate, and we forced ourselves to initiate contact with new girls every weekend, and we really got the hang of it, and it became fun. And then there's changing your way of thinking or philosophy of life. "What's the worst thing that can happen if I ask my boss for a raise?". "I'll get fired????" Doesn't seem likely, but it's the worst thing I can think of. But even if I get fired, life goes on and I can get a new job. "Hey, my boss can't fire me for asking for a raise!" OK, so the worst thing that can happen is that my boss won't give me a raise. OK, that's no big deal. At worst it might be awkward for 5 minutes. But hey, there is basically no risk involved. And also, it would be an experience to ask for a raise. Experiences are valuable. Without experiences everything will seem new and scary. If you've asked your boss for a raise before, how scary is it going to be to ask another time? You get the point ;)
@anjrit (997)
• Indonesia
23 Jun 07
I was people with big shyness when I was high school.I just shy to tlak to a girls that I loved her.I still remember when I was in front of the door of her class.just one step to say to her,I run to other place and failed to deliver my feel to her...It's very ridiculous.Now,I'm just more confident with my self.I have change my thinking about shyness (I alays try to brave to show my feel) and I have change my performance ...