In a relationship: Do you believe in giving/getting second chances?
By jershey
@jershey (71)
Philippines
3 responses
@jmathen (112)
• India
23 Jun 07
In a relationship, there should always be a second chance, but I dont think more than that will be necessary. We are all human, and mistakes will happen, right? We grow up in entirely different circumstances and down the road, we meet someone whom we are attracted to. That does not mean, that will be the perfect relationship. Mistakes will happen. I believe, if a mistake happens you should talk openly with your partner and get things straight. Make the other person know that you are aware of the mistake that happened and give that person a second chance. But if it is repeated again, then there is something you have to seriously analyse about the relationship. I have to say, if I am the one who made a mistake and I do regret about it, I would like to have a chance to apologize to my partner and get a second chance !!!!!1
@LadyK2 (71)
• United States
23 Jun 07
I've been on both ends - the one that gave second (and third) chances, and the one asking for a second chance.
I feel if the couple really love each other, and are willing to work past mistakes and hurts, then second chances are a must.
Don't give up on someone because you've been hurt before and this new peson seems to be the same. Give this new person that chance to prove themself.
If you've been hurt before, don't take it out on someone new. Don't hurt them just because you've been hurt by someone else. Give your relationship a real chance.
And if you've been in a relationship for years, and have been hurt time and time again - walk away and make a clean break. Don't cheat on that other person ... the pain in that relationship will last for years, even if you do give each other another chance. The hurt of being cheated is so very difficult to get over - some people have divorced and never married again simply because they felt they were not good enough because they've been cheated on. I've seen the pain caused to the adults and children involved - it's a pain that runs deep and is tough to overcome.
Second chances should always be given - we're all human, we all make mistakes. But really think Before you make that mistake - would YOU be willing to give someone a second chance if they made the same mistake?
@yamskee (827)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
i believe that love is sweeter the second time around. its the time where both parties know what to avoid to prevent conflicts in a relationship. and besides, how can partners know that they are not meant for each other if they dont give a chance to change everything bad that happened in their past.
