June 23, 2007 5:47pm CST
ooooohhh man, i hope you all understand where i am coming from when i say this, but i never thought that raising a toddler would be sooo difficult at times. My son just turned 3 yrs old and he is hitting this stage where he doesnt want to listen to momma... maybe i need a little bit of advice on this matter. HELP!!
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24 Jun 07
Hello there believe me you are not alone as a mum of five children there will be many things our children go through before they are grown . One thing i have learn`t is do not hit your child back it`s not teaching him that it`s wrong to hit .my children are all grown up the youngest being 16 but i now care for a few little ones of other peoples .Today i try to tell them it`s wrong to hit after several times the message gets through but in some cases it doesn`t i remove the child from what they are doing by either sitting them quitely by them selves for a short while just to let them know their behaviour is not accepted then after a while return them back to what they were doing telling them that it`s wrong to hit anyone and you do not like it when they hit someone .It`s not something that will stop overnight but repitition is the greatest way a child will learn but remember you have to be firm and constant in your punishment . Good luch with this and the many more problems that comes with a child your making a great parent just by asking for help.WELL DONE
• United States
24 Jun 07
Get him something of interest. My son at 3 was great. He rode a tiny tricycle by the side of the house. It was a small downhill, and he loved riding with his feet out, and the wind blowing his hair. He liked softball. Take him outside and toss a softball to him. By the middle of his third year, he was a professional. He didn't miss a toss. He liked building blocks, action figures, nursery rhymes with the pictures, ones he could learn to say aloud himself. He liked to help me bake cookies and things. When I cleaned, he watched the television, although he didn't watch much television. We watched together in the evening, a sitcom, maybe. Take a walk with him, show him the sky, the trees, the flowers, the grass, exclaim about the colors, etc. Ooooh, and look at this, what is this, do you know? Don't go more than a straight line down the street or at a park. They aren't robots, and need stimulation. Give him some easy responsibility with no consequence as he is too young (in the books) for responsibilities. Pick up and put toys away by 5:00pm. Wash hands and begin to brush teeth. Use washcloth and towel. (Not full bath, just basic washing, and praise him. Praise makes the difference) Chic it up, if it get monotonous, go "Ooooh, or put on Madonna and see if he wants to dance". He will watch the videos. Get some dvd's, maintain an interest and respect his brain. He'll watch everything you do. Make a place for him, a shelf for books, special action figures, he will communicate and ask permission. Wash sometimes, pick up toys, sometimes help pick up the laundry, let him watch you put laundry away, he'll know where things are in his room. Have a party with his favorite toys, make refreshments with him. Talk about school and manners, how he will be such a good..., and the teacher and everyone will get along so well if he listens as he should. He'll be normal, like the rest. Go to the library and read up on three year olds. If it continures, take him to the doctor.
• United States
25 Jun 07
I do all of that. I think he is going through a stage and I have started time out. Its effective most of the time. I agree with everyone here and thank you all for the resposes being made on here. My son is just trying my patience, so I am learning to gather my thoughts. He is a very mischievious little man and he knows how to work me, but its all getting better.
23 Jun 07
Hey there Down4wateva and Welcome to Mylot!! I have been through this a lot (having 7 young children) What I have seen every child reacts differently you could try time out for 3 mins (Time goes with age) and just be consisted thats where I went wrong and allowed my kids to get away with it, and soon learned as they got older it is a lot harder to fix.....and most importantly talk to your child about it after wards. Best of luck to you kiddo and please keep us all posted on how he's doing Stacy