Is it possible to be a career woman and a good mom at the same time?

Philippines
June 25, 2007 4:40am CST
I have two kids, a 2 year old and a 5 month old. Both boys and both I love so much. I am working and I love my job but my job takes most of time. I try to be there for my kids everytime I am free. However, this past few weeks, I have been really busy and tired to spend time with my two boys. I have 2 nannies, one for each, but I still feel unsure if my kids are well taken care of. I know the nannies well and my in-laws are just two houses away but I am always worried. My friends think that I just feel guilty for not being there for them very often especially since they are still very young. I think they are right and now I want to leave the job that I love just to be with them. I love my kids so much and if I need to sacrifice my job, I will do so. Is it really impossible to be a career woman and a good mother at the same time? Im confused wether to leave my job and to be a full time mom until they start going to school.
3 responses
• United States
25 Jun 07
I think it totally depends on the individual. I went from a career to being a stay at home mom, and I found that this works much better for my family. I know moms with big careers that are wonderful mothers. It's all about what works for you. Can you take a leave of absence from your career so that you can have a "trial run"?
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
I actually tried to do it for a month but I just can't stop myself from working. I think it is a part of me that needs to be fulfilled. But I'd rather sacrifice my own personal fulfillment than that of my kids. Thanks for sharing. Appreciate it.
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
I think it is possible. My mom was a career woman because our family needed the income and I think my 3 sisters and I were raised very well. We are very close with our mother and our nannies. As for myself, I have 2 little ones too and I'm a stay-at-home mom. The real benefit of being stay-at-home is having the chance to be with your children all the time and to witness their development first hand. We play a big and direct role in shaping our children just because of the amount of time we are physically with them. But at the end of the day, it all comes down to quality time. You can be a stay-at-home mom and be involved in other matters especially with nannies around. That is what I see with some of my friends. They claim to be full-time moms but pass their child to the nanny at the 1st sign of whining. And there is my mom and other working moms that I know. They work but when they come home, their children are their life. You can still raise good children while working. But if you can afford to be a stay-at-home mom and want it, it is one of those things that is worth doing.
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
thanks for sharing. my husband is a good provider and i do not really need to work but I have been working since I graduated from college and I do not want my knowledge and skills put to waste. I work because for personal fulfillment.
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• Singapore
25 Jun 07
Well if you believe you can do it , then you can do it , if you think that you can't do it , then you don't even have a chance to do it yea