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@mgmagana (3621)
United States
June 25, 2007 3:40pm CST
i've been aggravated with my m-i-law. so my hubby decided he's gonna tell her to move out sooner than expected. so it's kinda bitter sweet cause i get her out, but at the same time i know it's gonna effect not only my relationship with her but my hubby's and her relationship! so any advice on how to approach the best way to tell her to leave i would greatly appreciate it. i told him he could blame it on me!
6 responses
@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
26 Jun 07
I understand your problems with her but she is his mother and you should respect that,even tho she has no respect for you and yours. Im wondering if this may cause you and your hubby problems down the road,because things are about to get a whole lot worse when he tells her to leave. good luck.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
26 Jun 07
well i cant respect someone who doesn't respect me, i don't care who she is, she's his mom but that doesn't automatically mean that everyone has to respect her for that! she's done nothing in his life to prove she deserves that kind of respect, she's a selfish greedy woman who only cares about herself and her ex. the only problem i think it might create in mine and my hubbys relationship is when she gets ill or passes he might regret all the things he said or allowed me to say about his mom! i do understand wut u're saying tho, people automatically think that mother in laws deserve respect since they created our hubby's but not that mom, if u knew her u'd agree, everything she did in her life was to benefit her relationship with her ex (her kids dad) in the end it effected the way my hubby and his bros were raised! basically in a broken home!
• United States
26 Jun 07
I understand how MgMagana feels, My husband and i lived with his Mom and Dad when we were first together and it just was not a good idea. I came to realize how close him and his Mom were and how much that could affect our relationship. But I was hoping he would change, he made all kinds of promises about moving wherever I wanted and starting our life together. Well that never happened, he says it was because of his job, well he's a mechanic, they can get a job in just about any town, I mean look at all the different places you can work if you are a mechanic. It was because his Mommy couldn't stand him leaving. So here we are still living really close to everyone in his family and I hate living here and unfortunately there's alot of resentment because of it. One thing my husband knew is if he ever asked me if she could move in with us, it would be a flat out "No". I would divorce him, if he ever told me "too bad it's going to happen." I have to be happy also. I hope everything works out fot Mgmagana
@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
26 Jun 07
Iunderstand how MG feels really i do I to have a MIL from he** but im just saying that if she makes her husband to put her out it could cause problems later in life for her, as her husband could have hard feelings to his wife for having to put his mother out. Also im wondering what is the husbands take and feelings about all this.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Well maybe he should blame it on you but not completely. Just say its causing problems between you and your hubby and the kids. Shes going to be mad at first. But in time I think she will get over it.Does she have a place to go?
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Jun 07
yeah she can go to her parents house, that's where she was planning on going to in august.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Okay well then she will have to leave now!LOL Dont think about it and you shouldnt be worrying she is making you uneasy in your own house and thats not right. Be strong.
• United States
26 Jun 07
Don't be sad..no two women can live in the same house..it just don't work..to much friction ..even for Mother and Daughter...let alone a mother-in-law..it just don't work..in Japan the in-laws live with the oldest son or only son..so an only male child has a harder time finding a mate as what women would like her mother and father in-laws raising their children and telling them what to do..no privacy but you would get a built in baby sitter..as most women have to work with their husbands..Japan's economic bubble burst just like the US..so it takes more then one income now days...sorry..leave the parents to their own devices..unless they are invalid..then maybe? but tell them to keep their pie hole shut..lol..not really..just kidding..
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
26 Jun 07
wow, that's interesting to know about japanese culture! wow, that is def. an upside with the built in babysitter. i know wut u mean about two women living with eachother. yeah, i feel like telling my m-i-law to shut her piehole! he he!
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
Did you try to tell her that it would be better if you have your own space for your family? Just tell her that your relationship with her is not going so well, and it would be good for the both of you to live in separate houses. Is that too harsh? I think it is, but you can say it nicely and calmly. I'm also not really fond of my MIL, I think it's because we're still living in the same house. How I wish we can have our own house already, but I know we can not do that yet. That is possible within the next few years.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Jun 07
well good luck with getting ur new home! i think that's something i could say, b/c it's true, the longer we stay living together, the worse our relationship will become.
• United States
26 Jun 07
Don't be sad..no two women can live in the same house..it just don't work..to much friction ..even for Mother and Daughter...let alone a mother-in-law..it just don't work..in Japan the in-laws live with the oldest son or only son..so an only male child has a harder time finding a mate as what women would like her mother and father in-laws raising their children and telling them what to do..no privacy but you would get a built in baby sitter..as most women have to work with their husbands..Japan's economic bubble burst just like the US..so it takes more then one income now days...sorry..leave the parents to their own devices..unless they are invalid..then maybe? but tell them to keep their pie hole shut..lol..not really..just kidding..
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
25 Jun 07
Well maybe he should blame it on you but not completely. Just say its causing problems between you and your hubby and the kids. Shes going to be mad at first. But in time I think she will get over it.Does she have a place to go?