June 25, 2007 9:40pm CST
It is sad...you can't pick your family members. Let me tell you...the ones that I have, my mom's side of the family, I wouldnt pick these people to be my doormat, let alone my family. As many of you have followed in the previous weeks, my grandmother had a massive stroke while in the nursing home. She lived for about two weeks after and she passed this past Wed. It has been very hard on me. I haven't seen her in about two years, since I have moved out of NJ. I lived with my grandmother most of my life. I lived with her from age 5 to 16 and then again from age 22 to about 27 and then again for a few months when I was 29 years old. I was one of the only family members that ever did anything for her that was because she was my grandmother and not because I wanted recognition or money. Well...the wake and funeral were hell. Not only because I had to deal with my loss and my children being sad about grandma but also because my mothers family is all horrible people. They have done some terrible things to me in the past out of jealousy.(I am married with 4 wonderful children, a great job and my own house and their kids have none of that and looks like they may never have half of that). I was the closest grandchild to my grandparents but that was more their own fault and the fact that I lived with my grandparents for so much of my life. They didn't invite me into the limo from the funeral home to the church and cemetery. I was the only family member not invited. They treated me as some stranger and did not introduce me to anyone that I didn't already know. I was invisible. How can you treat someone like that during a very hard time?? I left the cemetery and went straight home. I did not go to the repass nor did I say goodbye to anyone or tell them I wasn't going to the diner to eat with them. They are all hypocrits and as*holes so why would I subject not only myself but also my husband and children to that crap?? They didn't even acknowledge my husband one bit. He never did anything to them either. Insane people should be locked up and not allowed to talk to anyone that isnt also insane. Sorry to go on and on. I guess I needed to vent a bit. I am going thru a lot losing my grandmother and they so added to it all. Funerals are hard to begin with but when the bulk of the family, there were only 6 people in mine, are idiots and are terribly mean for no good reason, it just makes it that much harder. thank you for listening!! anyone else have crappy family that they can do without?? i never have any reason to talk to or see these people again. Thank God!!!