Your Dad cheated on your Mom?

United States
June 26, 2007 2:45am CST
I have a friend who's parents are having a rough time, the Dad has cheated on the mom, I think they may know about it. It's kind of a messed-up situation to begin with, I don't think it could get much worse. The dad had an online relationship with another woman, and their kid knows about it. Do you think that it's ok to tell the mom about this? It's none of my business, but I want to be tere for my friend.
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@muscare (3069)
• Australia
26 Jun 07
Nobody else would want my dad anyway, so I don't need to worry about that, lol! But seriously, I think if they are going to try to get the situation sorted out, one way or another, all the cards need to be on the table! It's good for you to be there for your friend, though.
• United States
26 Jun 07
I think it's fine for you to do, but think about what you're doing first. The mother may not believe you, and may just get angry at you and tell you you're lying and won't permit her friend to hang out with you anymore. The Dad will secretly be pissed off at you, but will probably deny all claims. It will be a large situation that you're stuck in the middle of if you decide to tell them.
26 Jun 07
Wow that's tough. It's hard to watch your friend go through something like that. A few years back, the same thing happened to one of my closest friends. For months, she suspected her dad was having an affair, as he had done so when she was a baby. One day she was using his cellphone to text me, and came across some messages from someone who was named 'steve' in his phonebook, but they were obviously from a woman. She chose not to say anything to her mother, but she soon regretted it, as she had a phonecall one night when she was staying at my house - her mom telling her that her dad had left home for another woman. My friend was devastated, and she had wished she'd told her mom before that had happened. I think maybe you should encourage your friend to speak to his mother about it - if they are going to work it out, then she needs to know about this. And even if reconciliation isn't possible, it will be better if she finds out know, because the longer it will go on for, the harder it will be in the end. As the friend though, I think you should tread carefully - unless you have a close relationship with the mother, because it may be even more humiliating for her if she finds out that already two people knew about this before she did. It's a tough situation, but I think she needs to know.