i hate my brother-in-law!!!!

@djmarion (4903)
Philippines
June 27, 2007 4:49am CST
i know i should not be feeling this thing towards him but i cant help it, he ruined my family, he ruined his family and even my relationship with my sister. you know why, he is a gambler, and he's never been a good provider, intead of using his money to buy milk or food for his 3 year old kid, he would be spending that on something no really important like his vices (gambling, drinking, and God-knows-whatelese) at first we tried to understand him since we didn't know the truth but not that our eyes had been opened all i can say is that he would never be a good father to my niece...oh how i hate HIM !!! and i feel bad that my sister still trust him.
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@vhinjc (342)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
well i cannot blame you on your feelings to what your brother-in-law's attitude. all i can say is unless your sister opened her eyes and mind to what his wife is doing their life will be a living mess.
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@vhinjc (342)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
i mean to what her husband is doing... typo eror you kn0w... :-) lol
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@djmarion (4903)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
i would not just be a living mess my dear but a living hell i guess. how i wish i can shake my sister's head just to put some sense on it. :(
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• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Your feelings are actually understandable. Who would adore such kind of bro in law. If I am the sister in law, he might have been hearing some things from me already. Your sister might still trust him because she was hoping that finally he will change. Women were usually the ones who take more sacrifices when it comes to preserving a relationship.
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@djmarion (4903)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
oh yes, i did that too, and worse came to worst. one time i confronted him and tell him everything i want to say but to no avail...he didn't even make a reaction. he's so shameless. i cant stand being with him on the same roof but i cant do anything to kick him out of our house..
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• India
27 Jun 07
Seems your brother in law is evil minded person and have no respect/responsibility for his family. There are few people in society who are irresponsible. Your brother in law is one of them. If he continues his bad habit, my suggestion is to you to suggest your sister to leave such person and live a happy life even without him. Initially she may be in trouble and need your/parents support but after some time everything will be normal. You try to convince her to leave your brother in law at once and leave his as he is now. Live a life in daily tension is not good for health of your sister as well as family members. Your sister should realise this fact and take decision of being separated herself from such evil minded guy. In life we encounter such difficulties but if we are courageous, we can overcome the problem. Only need is to take first step ahead and be positive in work. Leave the rest on God. Everything will be go on right way automatically. I can understand your feelings, May God bless you & your sister happy life. But leave that person .... OK.
@djmarion (4903)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
i had been suggesting that thing for so many times seems like she cant live without that irresponsible man.
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27 Jun 07
I'm sorry to hear about this. It's terrible that he should act that way, and come between you and your sister like that. Unfortunately it is often true, that love is blind, and where you have come to realize what a bad person he is, your sister is still trying to understand him, and maybe doesn't want to admit to herself that she chose a bad person. It is often difficult for someone to come to terms with making bad decisions, especially if they feel that they are being judged by the ones they love. I understand you must feel angry, and helpless, too, knowing the way this man is, and not being able to make you sister see that. Maybe it would be best if you stepped back and let her carry on for a while, and if she feels less pressured by you or anyone else, then she may make the decision to end this relationship (because then she will feel like it is her own decision, and she is not being dictated by her family). It's always tough when there are children involved, too. Children should not be exposed to the behavior of people like this man. We can only hope that your niece will grow up to see what a horrible man he is, and learn by example to make a better life for herself than he did.
@djmarion (4903)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
its true mighty, and you know whats the worse thing...he's living with us..we live in the same roof with my parents... shame on him :(
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27 Jun 07
Wow, that makes things a little different! This is such a tough decision, and it must be hard for your parents too! I wish I had all the answers, but where family is concerned, it's hard to know what to do, since relationships are so delicate and easily broken with those you love most. I can only hope that one day you are rid of this man forever.
• Brazil
27 Jun 07
looking to all this discussion, i can only think in two things: -you can move out, buy yourself a house and leave that man behind -convince your sister to break off with him, i know its hard but is still an option -kill him! xD (joking) good luck on this
@djmarion (4903)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
thanks markartur. :)
@lucky_witch (2713)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I understand how you feel... Its because you love your sister and your niece. I dont know what to say... youre on a very difficult situation... If your sister still trust him... there is nothing you can do. There is a limitation of what you can do for them. But I guess you can talk to your sister... thats the only thing you can do... If she still trusted him then maybe just keep close so that if ever she change her mind she could reach you easily... Maybe she has her own reason why she keep on trusting him despite of what he did. I guess you just need to talk to her.
@djmarion (4903)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
i tried talking to her about her husband but we ended up with a fight. :(
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@johndur (3050)
• Pasig, Philippines
4 Apr 12
well the only thing you can do about it is to ask your sister to tell him all the not good things you have noticed.im sure one day he will realize that what he is doing is wrong...
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
Gambling can really ruined a family if he cannot control it. He must buy the all need of his family before he do his hobby. It will also become a cause of lost of livelihood of the family. I think your sister must see the truth that her husband is not responsible to their kids because i think she will be the key for your brother in law become responsible father and husband.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
6 Jul 10
Hi, djmarion. Your brother-in-law is a very cruel man! He should be a better husband and father to his family. It is a shame that he does not take care of his responsibilities like he should. What a waste for a man! Gambling is never good to do!
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
unless your sister opens her eyes to the mistake of her husband you will never get rid of him.
@phon4u (2217)
• Laos
28 Jun 07
Very bad for gambling. What he earns he will put in that place. You sister still love him so he can play what he wants. I heard people never get rich with hard gambling if they are not lucky. Just make yourself happier and make your wish you won't have that kind of husband.
@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Compulsive gambling is an illness (so they say). I say, a swift kick.....