Can there be love after 20 years apart????

United States
June 28, 2007 4:38am CST
My ex boyfriend from when I was 15 years old called me today. After 20 years of being apart amd living separate lives he still loves me like he did back then. We have had no contact all this time, and yet we have been on the phone for 6 hours since the first time he called me. We have been talking about everything. It's amazing to know that my heart still pounds when I hear his voice and how much I still care about him. I have no once stopped smiling since we started talking and my cheeks hurt. So, do you think it's possible for love to last 20 years between 2 people who haven't had any contact? Would it be possible to pick up where you left off and make the relationship last?
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14 responses
• India
29 Jun 07
Wow! this sounds like straight from some fairytale romance and I wish it would have the same ending. It’s perfectly possible to feel deep love for another person even after two decades of separation and in today’s world such emotions and commitments are becoming rare indeed. You both are really lucky to have shared the same feeling all these years. However, I would really advise you to take each step with a pinch of salt as both of you are now no longer starry-eyed teenagers who view the world through rose-tinted glasses. Both of you have changed beyond recognition (both physically & mentally) and it would be best to greet each other with open minds and not with pre-conceived notions. All the best!
• United States
14 Jul 07
Well for all of you who responded..... We took an awesome trip all over the west part of the US. We went to Iowa, Nebraska, Wyoming, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Oklahoma, and Missouri. We do still love each other as we did when we were kids.Have to see what happens though. It was the best 2 weeks of my life though.
• India
16 Jul 07
Everything will work out just fine. Keep us posted!
@ESKARENA1 (18306)
28 Jun 07
wow, i wish you all the best and i really hope you can make it work. Please be careful, after such a gap i would be very suprised if you are both not very different people to who you were at 15 years old. It will be starting all over again. Guard your heart and take a chance if you feel like it, but bear in mind that he will be different as will you best of luck blessed be
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Oh yes i agree =). Am sure each one have changed already and starting all over again is very possible. They may get surprised by the changes each partner has but they still love each other after 20 years of being apart. Their love will make everything possible =).
• United States
14 Sep 11
WOW! Hope it worked out. I found myself in same situation almost 2 years ago and we are together! It was 23 years, I was 17 he was 18 and he went off to college. He called me about 13 years ago, both of us married at that time, just to talk and check in. A year ago, both of us single, He found me on facebook and it took off like a rocket. I have never loved another or felt so loved by another person. It's amazing. We are so much alike its scarey and our lives have oddly mirrored each others, almost like seperated twins. We think alike and get along so well as we always did. I feel so blessed and just utterly amazed as to what each day brings. Its unexplainable.
• United States
28 Oct 10
My first love and I were together from when I was 15 to when I was 19. I have never loved anyone like I love him. He left suddenly when I was 19 and broke my heart. 3 weeks after he left, I found out I was pregnant with his baby. I had no way of contacting him and his family were horrid, and did not believe the baby was even his so they refused to help. I ended up putting our baby up for open adoption and trying the best I could to get over him and move on with my life. I got married to a man who I now know I was trying to replace my first love with. We also had a daughter. It was a bad marriage and I ended up divorced and raising my daughter alone for 15 years. I vowed to never let a man come into my life again because I had been so badly hurt by both my first, and every man after that. I stayed alone and lived for my kids. I burried my feelings for Mike (first love) for 17 years and pretended I didnt care any more. He even called me once while I was married and I feigned neutrality like I was over him. But my heart never stopped burning for him. I had given up hope of ever seeing him again and accepted being alone by choice. THen 3 months ago, he called me and layed everything on the line. He said he regretted every day walking out on me and that he had never stopped loving me. He said he wanted to meet our daughter and be with me no matter what. I was scared, still am in fact. I knew we had both changed physically and that it would be different for both of us. Also, I am terrified of getting hurt again after being so safe and guarded for almost 2 decades. But, I took a chance and went to see him. The second we saw each other we fell to pieces and into each others arms. It was the best desicion i have ever made. We are more in love now that we were 20 years ago. We love how we both have changed and embrace it fully. Added to that is the wisdome of a much more mature person in each other. I say, GO FOR IT, you will not regret. I have never been this happy in all my life.
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
i must say it can be true, but for me, i think he loves you and the feeling just went back when he remembers you. I was happy for you because it seems you love him still, and you still care about him. It is possible and goodluck. Give us updates of what will happen ok.
@budsr03 (2355)
• Canada
29 Jun 07
Wow, i hope for loves' sake this works out! I also hope the both of you have enough in common and pasts that you both can live with. I wish you both the best! Take care Dragonprincess.
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
Its true love I may say. Being away with each other does'nt mean love would fade. They says absence makes the heart ponder. And I believe that sometimes there are cases where the love is just hiding from the deep side of our heart. And when being touch again it would beat as much as before. So go for it girl! It must be your destiny and the half of your heart.
• Australia
29 Jun 07
I hope though you are still single. Are you? if not, then it's not good to be involved with your x bf. You could end up cheating your husband. I envy of you. I hope that my x bf when I was 15 after 20 years will still love me and want me back lol.
• United States
29 Jun 07
ofcourse! i think it is very possible. some people even being not together will love someone for the rest of their lives expecially if it was true love.
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
Wow!Thats amazing and make me feel excited too.I can completely feel what you feel though i didnt experienced that kind of situation yet.Did you ask him why he call you?The reason behind that after 20 years of being apart,then he still remember you??? If you and him are both single right now,i guess, there is a big posibility that there is still love after 20 years.And you have said too that you can feel it inside your heart... I hope that you will meet in person again and start all over again.Goodluck...I hope you can share to us your latest update incase you and him will be in good terms for being together again.
@tombiz (2039)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
It is quite possible since I believe that there is really true LOVE between the two of you. I even heard of true-to-life stories of partners who got separated while being young and after so many many many years (50 years plus), they meet again and fell in love the second time around. Twenty years is not that long time for love to fade. Your love with each other could be so strong. I hope that this time it will already be for good, I mean no more separation between the two of you. I am so happy for you!
• Australia
29 Jun 07
If you still feel that way by just talking to him, I think that it is very possible. Some things are just meant to be.
• India
28 Jun 07
True Love never ends. It has no ending time. If it ends up then this is not a love but flirting only. As this is a matter of two hearts and heart is purest part of body. When we love someone by heart and he/she too in same intensity, this love relationship remains for ever. No matter for how much years we are apart. From your statement it is very clear. Even meeting after 20 years of long duration, you could be able to talk for 6 hours over phone non-stoppage. You smiled all the time. Your cheeks hurt. This is the sign of true love, believe me. Actually you should have married this guy as he is also remembering you till date.
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Wow! That's amazing! I wish I'll have a guy like ur ex hehehe. The good thing is the feeling is mutual - you said ur heart still pounds and you still care for him - that's so cute. This is the first story i've heard about being away for a long time yet still in love with each other. Maybe he realized that he could not find any other girl equal or more than you. After years of searching and being away his heart finally told him that it is still you whom he loves. That's so sweet =)