Building a relationship with my sister

@chrys84 (118)
United States
June 28, 2007 5:03pm CST
i have a sister who is 5 years younger than me. We have the same dad (or sperm donor as we refer to him) but different mothers. I have had the hardest time trying to build a relationship with her because she is totally different from me. She's an intravert and i'm very outgoing and crazy. I rarely see her or talk to her and we live in cities that are right next to eachother. I just feel like if i called her we'd have nothing to talk about or if i took her somewhere she'd be bored. She's really negative and mean. She can be real stubborned so i dont' know how to even act around her. Maybe some of you have been in similar situations and could offer some advice. Thank you in advance for your time and input!
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7 responses
• India
29 Jun 07
Don't worry dear friend, as time goes your problem will be solved
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@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I have a sibling who is also very different from me in every way. I can tell you that we have little in common and rarely talk to each other. I have reconciled with myself that this is how it is and although I've tried to make it work, it's just not my destiny. I've found much closer relationships with dear friends who have given me more support and love than my sibling ever has. However, if you feel that you want to forge a relationship with her, then certainly keep communicating. Maybe one day you will both be in a place in your lives where you will connect so keeping that connection is important.
@trk918 (254)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Maybe she's just scared. She isn't very out going & sometime that means a person is very shy. You could just try asking her to go to lunch or just say "Hi". Start out small. She may feel the same way you do.
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@sakana (260)
• Singapore
29 Jun 07
My sister and I are quite similar and we're only 2 years apart so we're also quite close, but I'm definitely more outgoing and open than her. I think you should find out if she keeps an online journal or a blog so you can read it and maybe get to know more about her and her feelings. The internet holds no boundaries!
@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
29 Jun 07
you find her?She likes to know what?If you understood her and know what her hobbies, and you have a certain interest,hobbies,I think it might be better.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
28 Jun 07
Just because you are the oldest, does not mean that you have to be the one to always take the first step. If she wants to build a relationship with you, let her make the first move. It takes two to make any relationship work and if she is not willing to make the effort, why should you. Being mean and negative hurts. If she is not willing to work on her attitude so that she can get closer to you, then what can you do. I would try to find out whether or not she really wants a relationship and if she does, try to find out why she is being mean and nasty with you.
• United States
28 Jun 07
I couldn't even imagine if my sisters and I didn't really spend time together. My oldest is 9 years older than me and my middle sister is 5 years older than me. We live in the same small town. Oldest lives across the road. Other one lives a couple of blocks from me. All you can do is talk to her and find out what she likes to do. Since you're the outgoing one, it won't hurt you to try to do something she likes. Then maybe ask her if she minds doing something you like. Maybe that will get her to open up more. Maybe she feels the same way and doesn't really know how to interact with you. Good luck!
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