Have You Ever been In Love With Your Best Friend?

United States
October 24, 2006 7:40pm CST
I am in a relationship but my heart belongs to another man... my best friend! what should I do? Ever been there done that? If so share you're experience.
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@raadco (599)
• India
27 Oct 06
hey i would never care to do tat ..cant loose a good frnd
• United States
27 Oct 06
well I do care because my love for him is embeded in my heart for life, but I would NOT want to lose a good friend (in my case a best friend) either
@raadco (599)
• India
27 Oct 06
ok ..nice
• United States
27 Oct 06
DON'T TELL ME EVERYONE THAT'S EVER BEEN IN THIS SITUATION HAS SPOKEN ALREADY!
• Belize
25 Oct 06
i know what you're feeling, because im in the same place in my life too; however i am not in a relationship. i love my best friend very much, he is my world and i know that he loves me because we have had that discussion. u shouldnt be afraid to enter into a relationship with your best friend, because the best thing to have in a relationship other than good communication, trust, and loyalty is being a best friend to that person and vice versa. however if the relationship does not work and u guys are truly best friends the friendship will survive. right now u are cheating the person your with by having your heart somewhere else, that is certainly very unfair to him especially if he loves u very must and treats u like you're his world. whatever you decide to do, i hope it works out for you.
• United States
25 Oct 06
thanks, I know it is not fair to the one I'm with but at the same time I feel torn betwwen the two... This is my mans first serious relationship and I'm the first one he ever brought home to meet his mom and dad, and all of this is a first for him and I'm afraid that if I leave him I will permanantly damage his heart. I also have to add that I was in love with my best friend before I met my current man.
• Belize
26 Oct 06
now that makes it even worst because you know your heart belonged to someone else before you got into your current relationship. things are serious now and whatever you do someone will get hurt. however i understand what your sayng to a certain degree and thats why i'm single right now. i made the conscious decision not to get involved with anyone because my heart belongs to my best friend. my best advice to you is to be honest to yourself and your boyfriend because if you don't you could lose yourself which will hurt your and of course him too.
• United States
26 Oct 06
damn, thats deep and some of the realist words ever spoken to me about this situation.
• United States
25 Oct 06
I think that if you really care for your friend, you have to somehow make a decision on just which one you want to be with...life is too short to not be with a person you are feeling...also, its not fair to the dude you are with to be with him and you know you would rather be with your friend..I just hope the friend is single..
• United States
25 Oct 06
I agree and i thank you for the advice, everyone is leaving comments and I really need advice. I really appreciate it thatnks a lot! :)
• United States
25 Oct 06
no problem whatsoever...lots of experience crammed into my 24 years on this earth..ain't nobody else around here even talkin about anything worth anything anyway...
• United States
25 Oct 06
yea everybody's tryin so hard to get a response that no one is talking about anything relative. So do you have topics on here, and what are they about? YOu're 24? I'm older than you by a year and you're giving me advice, thats hilarious. So how do you know so much?
• United States
25 Oct 06
i liked my best friend once, didnt tell him though. in the end he ended up dating my other best friend.
• United States
25 Oct 06
I dig, I have been in that one too but eventually after being in that situation I went for it and told him how I felt.
@w1ssam (488)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
25 Oct 06
to the poster of this question : I think you are cheating your partner by loving your other friend, what a shame ....if my girl friend loves her best friend and live me I will sucide .. it's hard you know ... don't be selfesh .. you girls are selfesh by nature damn ...
• United States
25 Oct 06
not all girls are selfish. i'm completely against cheating and lying. i love my fiance with all of my heart and would never deceive him in any way! i know more guys that act that cheat and lie than girls.
• Philippines
25 Oct 06
yes i do..but it didnt work out..it better to stay as friends..we fought a lot before.now we are in good terms
• United States
25 Oct 06
well thats exactly what I'm afraid of happening, thanks for the input and I'll keep it in mind when i make up my mind.
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• Philippines
26 Oct 06
o..thanks also..keep it up..dont forget to pray..
@dellion (6706)
• Malaysia
25 Oct 06
I do have the same experience as I happend to like my best friend very much and wish to be with her for relationship but just can't make it might be cause of our relationship been too closed and we can't find the feel as a lover:(
• United States
25 Oct 06
I believe you can always find that passion in your heart for eachother because best friends share a bond like no other.
@dellion (6706)
• Malaysia
25 Oct 06
Yes,thats right......the friend we can treat as best friend was in our heart forever:)
• United States
25 Oct 06
my best friend is my man...so i guess i'm ok...lol..sounds like a little bit of a dilemma you got there
• United States
25 Oct 06
yes I do, a very serious one indeed. My body is here but my heart is somewhere else and I feel guilty for even thinking of another man but then again you cant help what you feel.
@dellion (6706)
• Malaysia
25 Oct 06
Its really great to have your best friend and lover at once:)
@Bettyann (2486)
• United States
26 Oct 06
i ahve been in that situation before i was in love with him and his brother know it but he didn't he was the only thing i woke up for he would talk to me about anything snd i would him to i tried so many times to tell him how i felt but every time something happened now i am married and i still am in love with him but i haven't talked to him in 3 years i miss him like crazy. but i tell you to follow your heart because i wish i did! Good Luck
• United States
27 Oct 06
thank you sooo much for the insight. Me and my best friend are just like that the same way you described except for I told him how I felt and found out he has the same feelings... MY problem is I know someone will get hurt and I don't know who its gonna be.
@im_vjy (1485)
• India
26 Oct 06
my best friend is my GF..........!!!!!
• United States
26 Oct 06
thats the general direction of my heart because thats where he (my best friend) lives. So my best friend might end up being my bf but thats a very big might, because I've loved him so long that we are both scared to take that step both because of my situation and because we don't want to lose the connection we already have.
@insecure (612)
• India
25 Oct 06
"FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND IN DEED"- i hope i dont have to say more u could understand rest
• United States
25 Oct 06
Say no more I do indeed understand the rest.
• India
25 Oct 06
first thing never hide your feelings..I believe everybody appreciates honesty..talk to him and hopefully u would find a solution.
• United States
25 Oct 06
thank you very much... I believe that is the most sincere passionate answer I've heard so far.
@psmohan (1883)
• India
25 Oct 06
It had happened once with me. I got involved with one of colleague and it became difficult to manage both at home and in office. Finally I had to quit job to get out of it. Now I am peaceful. Chnage of place also mattered a lot.
• United States
25 Oct 06
wow, thats deep being in love with someone who's not only a friend but a co-worker as well, that's a tough one. Glad you have your piece of mind once again.
• India
25 Oct 06
hey i was also faced the same situation in past but now i m away from friend and the feelings..
• United States
25 Oct 06
well do you look at it as a good thing or a bad thing that you are away from your friend?
@HemaSrini (435)
• India
25 Oct 06
Yes, I really felt, experienced and got into the relationship of marriage with my dear best friend. A true best friendship will many times turn out into marriage.
• United States
25 Oct 06
did the marriage last? I ask because my best friend and I are afraid that if we do cross that line and it doesn't work out that we'll not only lose eachother relationship wise but we're afraid we'll lose the friendship we started off with.
@ArsonCuff (3121)
• United States
25 Oct 06
I am my best friend
• United States
25 Oct 06
LOL. We should all be so lucky because then no one would ever be lonely.
@im_vjy (1485)
• India
26 Oct 06
my best friend is my GF..........!!!!!
@disturbedgd (1822)
• South Africa
25 Oct 06
no never before
@istanto (8572)
• Indonesia
25 Oct 06
well.. im never been in love with my friend.. and i hope that will not happen on me T_T
• India
25 Oct 06
yes
@BuffMom (2215)
• United States
25 Oct 06
no never