do you sleep with your baby?

@Bujoyseth (1684)
Philippines
June 30, 2007 12:33pm CST
to all mothers out there. do you sleep with your baby or he has his separate bed or crib? well, as a mother, i sleep with my baby beside me.. i don't put him in the crib over night. i just can't sleep without him at my side..
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@lillake (1630)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I sleep with my baby in bed with me. It is safer than having him far away trapped in a cage, it is easier to urse him at night and therfore I get more sleep, and it is comforting to both of us not to break that bond of closeness formed during pregnancy. I don't know any adult that would make their spouce sleep in a tiny cage in another room at night, so why would they make their baby?
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
i agree that sleeping with your baby is more comforting for both and helps develop the bond of closeness between you and your son/daughter.. it's nice to hear that a lot of mother here in mylot sleeps with their child until they reach the age of three or even younger... happy posting!
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I always had a crib or bed for my kids to sleep in . But my grand daughter on weekends sleep with her parents and even on week days if she starts out in her bed she ends up with daughter to me it is wring to do this as they get older it is harder to get them trained to thier own bed.They have monitors al over the house so there is nothing that they dont hear they get her even if she just whimpers. Yup she getting spoiled . I was always afriad I would lay on the baby even tho I knew I wouldnt ya just dont do it for some reason But every night it isnt good for you or them.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Jul 07
yup it does depend on how we raise them and your bed must be getting very crowded lol Glad older one decided he wanted own bed!
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
i think, that depends o n how we upbring our children.. my elder son, now three years old sleep with me uring his first three years and then suddenly two nights ago, he told me that he already wanted to sleep alone and i'm thankful to that because i already have my second baby with me... hehehe..
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
hahaha.. yeah, you're absolutely right! our bed is getting crowded that's why when my baby told me that he want to sleep separately.. thank God! hehehe... now, we only got our baby with us in bed..
@miryam (6505)
• Italy
30 Jun 07
i not have a baby, but one little dog sometime it sleep whith me.........eheh :) bye
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
hahaha.. that makes sense... anyway, i used to have a dog who sleep with me too. so sad, he already passed away.. anyway, thanks for your response, it's much appreciated! good day!
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I seemed to have done the opposite of what most people do! When my youngest was first born he slept in his Moses basket next to me. I wasn't comfortable bringing him into the bed with me regularly while was still so small. Once he was a little bigger, around four months and could move himself around better, I brought him in with me. He's only 7 1/2 months old and still nurses so there is no way I would want him in another room in a big, scary crib all by himself!
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
yeah, and in that case, mothers always want the best and safety for their child.. thanks and good day!
@alexsis (2149)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Yes, my daughter sleeps with me in my bed. I've bought her a crib/toddler bed and when I would lay her down to sleep in it she would wake up and starts to crying. Now since I've converted it into a toddler bed all she do is play in it.
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
babies always wanted to be with their mother even when they sleep. these happens especially during their first years. thanks and good day!
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
1 Jul 07
I didn't like the idea of having my daughter sleep with me, for 1, she had a bed of her own (a bassinet) & i am a restless sleeper so i was worried i would roll over & squash her. Also, it's like a lot of things, it's a hard habit to break as i have noticed with other fanmily members so i didn't particularly want a 5,6,7 year old insisting on sleeping with me, they do need to learn to become independent at 1 stage or another - especially if she wanted a brother or sister. It's also something i think all kids can do, it just depends on whether you allow them to do it & then work out how you're gonna get them out of the habit! Everyone is different though, i read about anoher woman on here who never held her daughter unless she was feeding her, different things work for different people.
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
we have different insights regarding this and it depends on each of us here how we get along with our children in their first years... different moms, different attitudes towards caring of their children.. i do appreciate and respect your opinion.. good day!
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
30 Jun 07
We slept with ours at first. The transition took time til they were ok in their own bed without the heartbeat nearby. We slept differently and took it seriously. Worked out quite well and I much prefer to sleep alone. Being a mother though I made the concession so the child would grow and mature feeling safe and cared for.
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
wow! that's nice.. you let your baby felt how he was cared and felt safety beside you during the first years.. that's one nice attitude being a mother, though we want to sleep well at night, we always prioritize our children, we sacrifice..
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Jun 07
I didn't have the option of sleeping with my baby because I'm a very turbulent sleeper, and he would have been injured. It was far safer for him to be in a crib so that I couldn't roll over on him or hit him in my sleep like I've done to my poor husband! Now that he's bigger (one year old) sometimes we do take naps together in bed during the day, because I sleep more lightly then and won't do him harm. But at night I would stll never put him in my bed because I'd be too worried about it. I think ultimately it's different for different families what works best.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Initially my son slept in a crib right next to our bed. NOw and then I would put him our bed but had to be really careful because my husband would not sleep well because of the fear of rolling over onto him. So we got an single bed and put it up against our queen size bed and he slept on that while my sonand I slept on our bed. He has slept with me right up until the age of 3. Now and then he still crawls into our bed though, a hard habit to break!
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
it's just like my elder son. he already sleep alone now that he's already three. i only sleep now with my four-month old baby.. thanks and happy posting!
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
30 Jun 07
I tried to sleep with my firstborn, but neither of us slept well at all. He slept in a travel crib beside our bed until he was a year old. Now he sleeps in his crib in the next room and my second son (just one month) sleeps beside my bed in a tub (makeshift bassinet. This way we all sleep better. Also, it scares me to have a small baby in the bed because my husband flipflops a lot and he is a very sound sleeper, he wouldn´t notice if he squashed the baby!
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
oh, that's an opposite in my case.. i can't sleep well knowing that my son sleeps along in his crib though the crib is just placed beside our bed.. i want to feel him beside me and with that, i can sleep better..
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
30 Jun 07
We allow our son to sleep with us occassionally. He slept with us almost every night up until about 4 months ago. He is a happy well adjusted kid and we enjoyed the closeness it afforded us. It worked out very well for us.
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
yes, sleeping with your son/daughter helps develop your closeness with each other as he grows up.. by the way, my son sleeps alone already because he's already three, he just started sleeping alone two nights passsed.. and now, i only sleep with my four-month old baby.
• United States
30 Jun 07
I would never have my baby sleep with me in the same bed. Too many accidents could happen; falling off bed, rolling over on the baby... My babies have always slept in a bassinet and then into a crib when they outgrew the bassinet. Its a bad habit to start and then try to break them when they are older can be difficult at times.
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
well you have a point there but because i'm here in the Philippines. i was born and grew up here.. mothers always sleep with their child on the first years of their life until the child can sleep alone in his room...
@Cassy1976 (796)
• Australia
30 Jun 07
My daughter sleeps in her cot (crib), the only time that I have ever had her sleep in my bed is when she was sick and I felt that if I didnt get a little bit of sleep then I would go mad, but it was only for an hour or so. I am a bigger person and I worry that I will roll onto her during the night and also if she does come into my bed when she is sick my arm goes to sleep and I dont like that feeling!
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
in my case, i always sleep with my baby even if he's not sick. i just can't sleep knowing that he sleeps alone in the crib.. thanks and happy posting!
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 07
Hello Bujoyseth, Same with me here. I sleep with my baby next to me. I love the time when I can see him sleeping peacefully. I love to look at him. I don't feel good to let him sleeps alone in his baby cot. By the way, my son moves around so much when he sleeps. He 'conquers' the big bed by himself. And I just love to see that *smile*
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
yes, staring at your baby who sleeps beside you is a feeling a mother can't explain. i don't know hat is that feeling.. but i know that when my baby sleep beside me, i'm sure he's safe and comfortable...
• United States
1 Jul 07
I did when they were little. For the first 3-6 months. I felt better having them next to me. I was right there if they needed anything. Now we take the occasional nap together and they sleep in my room 5 nights a week.
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
that's good! and as days passes by, they will come to realize an would want to sleep alone, and there's one thing for sure, you'll miss them sleeping beside you... good day!
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
I am not yet a mother but i choose to sleep with my baby in bed. I want to hug her my little one and smell her baby fragrance.
@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
1 Jul 07
I have slept with my son since i brought him home from the hospital since birth. At that time, we just didn't have enough money to get a crib.. and a few weeks after he was born, and had some money, my husband and i decided not to get him one because we love sleeping with him beside us. He is now 3 years old and he still sleeps by my side.. But since I'm expecting a new baby in October, this time, I'll definitely need to get a crib for my newborn.. :)
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
wow! congratulations! my three-year old son also sleeps with us in bed since birth but not, he already sleep alone because i also gave birth for my second baby, he's now four month old... take care!
• United States
1 Jul 07
My baby has her own crib and on ocassion I put her in the bed with me. My 6 year old ALWAYS sleeps with us. He has since he was a baby. I can't break him out of it. He kicks and screams until we let him in the bed. I only have a Queen size bed and this is hard with 3 people. When 2 of us are overweight and plus we have a child in the middle. It gets cramped up.
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
oh my, that's truly hard sleeping with three of you in bed.. just like us, hehhee.. but anyway, that's okay.. sooner or later, your baby willl realize that and would want to sleep in separate bed.. just like mine, he's already sleeping in his own bed and it was just nights ago...