What do you think about a couple that....

Couple living together - a couple
@Lecaro (1105)
Romania
July 1, 2007 7:11am CST
are living together before marriage? have you lived with your bf before you got married? are you pro or not?
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
1 Jul 07
I personally think every couple should live together for a couple of years at least before they get married, people are so different and if your going to choose someone to spend the rest of your life with you need to find out each others faults and ways of living, I know I would never buy a car without test driving it and it is not as hard to change cars as it is to divorce...
@Inky261 (2524)
• Germany
1 Jul 07
Where I live the people just live together. Not many people get married any more. Some do but the question is put wrong for people like me. Everybody lives together, a few get married but for the majority of the people it is not living together before marriage. There is no advantage in getting married any more and if one doesn`t get married one doesn`t have to pay for a divorce.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Jul 07
My husband and I lived together for five years before we got married. Initially our moving in together happened because I didn't have a place to live, and was too ill to even take care of myself. We stayed in an apartment with several other people then. As time went by, the issue of marriage came and went in our relationship. He was pretty adamant about eventually getting married, but I had a lot of problems with the idea of marriage, because of abuses of it in the past, and most of the people in my family had bad marriages or many marriages. I just didn't want to get involved in an institution like that, which I could only see to have ever done harm. What he finally said to me to change my mind was that each marriage is like it's own living thing, and that what the marriage we created turned into was only up to us, and couldn't be affected by the marriages of others or the history of marriage. So we got married, after we had already been living together for five years. There were many of our friends who were like "Finally!" and many people who knew us casually who hadn't even known we weren't already married. Really I don't feel as if getting married changed anything in our relationship, and while our relationship has grown over the past three years since our wedding vows, I don't think it's because of them. However, I am happy that we took that step because of the many legal protections it affords, because it was important to my husband, and because it was a great time for us to connect with our friends and loved ones and celebrate our relationship.
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@kampo90 (289)
• Antarctica
1 Jul 07
wjat should be wrong if to people like each other and want to move in together to see how they would live together i think its a great idea they can find out if they can live together and get married or they can find out that they arent the wright one for eachother and avoid makeing a big mistake i think ist a logical stepp before you get marrioed to move in together
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@stvasile (7317)
• Romania
13 Jul 07
I think it's a good thing, because it helps them see what their life after marriage will be. This way they can see if they stand each other or not and avoid later problems. I think meny couples have problems after they get married and find they can't stand living in the same house...
@rosie_123 (6118)
1 Jul 07
Well here in the UK, the majority of people live together - in fact more couples live together here than ever get married at all, so I would say it is not an issue. What matters to me, is that two people love and respect each other, and love any children they should have and bring them up to be good human beings. The presence of a bit of paper means nothing to that love and commitment. I know people who have been married for one year and then divorced, and also know people that have lived together 20 or 30 years without a marriage certificate, and with no problems in their relationship whatsoever. Maybe in some countries/cultures things may be different, but here it is considered normal. I personaly have been living with my partner for over 20 years. We never got married because we didn't see the point of it - our loyalty and commitment is to each other - no one and nothing else, and we don't need a piece of paper to prove anything to anyone!!!!