Parents Choose your Friends/Husbands/Wife?

@sharon_ (1171)
United States
July 1, 2007 6:21pm CST
Did they? Was it against your will? Are you happy with the relationship or do you wish they had of let you choose your friends and future husband/wife.What do you think?
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
my mom and dad let us choose our friends. we invite them all every once in a while so my parents will know them too. they also play games and have a chit chat with my folks.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Wow... What a great relationship!
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
yes and now that i have my own kids i try to be like my folks but kids differ from generations to generations, i have to be choosy.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
5 Jul 07
Your right about the changing times. As far as friends and relationships go, I think it was easier for us when we were young adults.
@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
1 Jul 07
My parents have never chosen my friends or partners or former husbands for me. I would never want them too. I am perfectly capable of choosing my own pelationships. I know who I am compatable with, there is no way my parents could know who I could love.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I really appreciate you commenting on this subject
@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
3 Jul 07
You are welcome,Thank you for best response.
• United States
2 Jul 07
My parents have never determined my friendships or relationships; they really don't have any control over those things, or many other things in my life. As a result, I was always very independent, even as a child. I do, however, have friends whose parents already have arranged marriages for them; it's part of their culture, and those friends also feel they'll lose their parents' respect or are generally afraid of their parents if they disagree with them.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I'm very happy that I didn't have an "arranged marriage"! I'm way too independent.
• India
2 Jul 07
lol sometimes i feel lyk my parents are really forcing to do me things. but i think sometimes am i against my parents my tradition and am i insulting someone choosing mah way of lyf. itz not good to hurt pplz to make ur decisions so we must care about our parents also sometimes but not obeying them blindly. i neva asked my father whether i should make a friend or not.. lol
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Oh yes, I do understand what you are saying. I'm sure you know that the tradition in a lot of Countries is for the father to choose the womens future husband.
@rhaizem (114)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
they didnt bother to know about it... they just giving me a little advice..
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
2 Jul 07
It's nice to know that the "parents" will be around with advice if needed.