friendship

@wendy82 (437)
United States
July 2, 2007 3:34pm CST
This kinda relates to the issue that I had before about dating a guy. He says that we are friends with benefits. But everytime I go to see him at his work. He always ask what is my reason to come and see him there? Do I have to have a reason to go see a friends?
3 responses
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
3 Jul 07
No you don't need a reason but from what i have noticed is the 'norm' - the people who only go & see other people, while they're working, are the partners. So maybe he thinks you're wanting more than friends with benefits & is worried that you're acting more like a girlfriend than just the normal friend he wants you to be. I hope that makes sense? Maybe friends should meet up after work rather than during work hours but when you have him alone, ask him why you need a reason to visit him at work, you might then have a clue as to why he always asks you!
@wendy82 (437)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I go see him when he is off work. I dont bother him when he is working. We used to date and he dont like the situation im in and he wants to be with me again. But I am not giving the chance.
• United States
2 Jul 07
Wendy, I wished my frieds could come to see me whenever they want to..i would like that..but it seems your "friend" has issues..maybe he don't want a certain "someone" seeing you come visit..jealousy:"""? perhaps...or is it a company rule? well, it does sound fishy..I think you know the answer..you sound like a smart lady...in your picture anyway..lol Friends should always be albe to see friends and friends should always be welcome..I would love for my friends to visit..24/7..but that is just me...
@wendy82 (437)
• United States
2 Jul 07
No he has his friends meet him there all the time because he hangs out there due to the fact that he dont have electric at home. So he cant play his laptop or anything. But he studies up there and he does study group. He is glad sometimes that I come to visit when I want to talk. He even invited me to come stay over at his house when things were rocky at my moms or the house i am at now.
@saierchok (1294)
• United States
2 Jul 07
dear, maybe he's expecting some more.. maybe just friends is no enough for him.. so he asks to get an answer he wishes for.,. who knows.. maybe he likes you more than a friend.. or thinks that you do!! any way it's always a pleasure to have your friends beside you and you always have a reason to see them .. and the reason is missing them as they are a part of you..
@wendy82 (437)
• United States
2 Jul 07
He wants me to move back home to my moms so that we could be more then friends. But he is not liking the situation that im in at the moment. He is sometimes glad that we are still friends.