Is it wrong for someone to stay in a relationship after the feelings are gone?

United States
July 3, 2007 2:29am CST
Is it wrong to stay in a relationship even though the feelings for your other are gone? Just because you don't want to hurt them?
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@JanMags (724)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
i'm sorry to say this but yes, i think it is wrong to stay in a relationship if the feelings are gone. that is if you are not in a married relationship. you should be fair to both yourself and your boy/girlfriend and sticking it our for the wrong reasons isn't fair. you both need to be happy on the other hand i think married people have a tougher situation to deal with. i think married couples should stick it out even if the feelings are gone because they made a commitment and have the responsibility to stay together. they should only give up when everything has been said and done and thinks still don't work out.
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
3 Jul 07
i feel that for relationship issue, there is no right and wrong answer. better to hurt them earlier than to let them think where had gone wrong and kept on blaming themselves.
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@MAX1966 (1029)
• Netherlands
4 Jul 07
i dont know if it is wrong but it is not a good decision you are lying to yourself,and lying to the other person i told my bf i did not love him anymore he did not like it but i cant ly about it
@chari_dc (492)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
in my opinion, it is unfair to stay in a relationship with somebody you no longer love. a relationship has to be founded on love if not respect. so without it, it's useless to go on and pretend. you will only hurt the other person more by staying but cannot reciprocate the love.
• United States
3 Jul 07
I wouldn't say it makes anyone a bad person to do this...but the situation wouldn't be fair to anyone in the relationship. You should be honest in a relationship, and I think in the long run if you tell your partner you've lost the feelings for them they will respect your honesty. HECK! They might say they feel the same way and then you're both off the hook of feeling guilty! :)
@xiuluoelly (1224)
• China
4 Jul 07
Feelings of the matter, no one can say, well ,love is no right or wrong, not on the left, there is a better option in waiting for you , Now there is no need to seize the task.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
3 Jul 07
YES, because in the end, he or she will be even more hurt if they found out that u stayed out of pity and not love. I would not want my bf to stay with me if he didnt love me. We all deserve true love and if a person stoppes loving me I would like the chanse to find someone that will =)
@IL2Knit (1141)
• United States
3 Jul 07
No it is not wrong to stay. If you fell in love with them once you could do it again if you wanted to. My husband Ed and I didn't really know each other much less love each other when we got married. It was a marrage of convenience.But bc we promised not to ever divorce we worked hard on our marrage and we have been married for 22 years. We also love each other very much. It was a choice not a feeling in the begening. The feeling came later. :)