FORGIVE and FORGET...

I can forgive but never forgets about it. The hurt has been done, been wounded and leaves a scar so if ever a friend hurts me i'll forgive her but things will never be the same again. I prefer not to see that person because it will just remind me of the things that happened.

It depends on what it is- I try to be a forgiving person- but if it is the same person doing me wrong time and time again- I’m not easy to forgive- and I usually pull myself away from those types. But for other things I do try to forgive and forget- I hate to have any negative feelings inside of me- Forgiveness is good- but it is a hard thing to do.

I'm not very good at keeping grudges, so yeah I usually forgive. I like that trait now, but when I was younger I didn't like that I was this way, I was a bit of a push over and I would let everything slide. Someone would screw me over, let it slide. Forgive. But forget is always harder. To this day I know how to forgive fairly easily but forgetting always take it's time. I know I can and do forget - I recently took a look through 2006 journal. I had some entries in there where I was SO angry at certain people, but as I read them I couldn't remember what was so angering. So I guess eventually I do forget - but that one always comes later and with time. Forgiving is definitely easiest and comes the most naturally for me, though.

I am afraid I do. I could be very frustrated and upset for some time, but I won't bear it in mind for long. I will still forget and forgive them. But the relationship will not be the same as it used to be, for it takes time to fix the heart once broken.

I have a soft heart but not in all times, it depends upon the situation. Its not easy to forgive and it also depend on the person whos asking for forgiveness, on how really their sincere ... Do their really worth to forgive? sometimes we dont have any choice just to forgive every they done mistakes to you... But deep inside the ache still there.... Its hard to forget rather than to forgive... I am a type of person just like you, its not easy for me to forgive and forget but i need to face all the trials in our life... to live. For my family who really loves me and still need me, especially for my kids. If i will live with anger in my heart, How could I be with my kids with a happy and big smile? Sometimes, I just think back and do waht was my friend shared a good story to me and I guess want to share this to you too... This goes like this... Two friends were walking through the dessert. During some point of the journy they had anargument and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one got slapped was hurt, but with out saying anything, she wrote in the sand: "Today my best friend slapped me in my face". They kept waking, until they found oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who been slapped got stock in the mire and started drowning but the friend save him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone " Today my best friend SAVED my Life" The friend who slapped and save his friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now write in a stone, why?" The other one replied, "When someone Hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in the stone where No wind can ever erase it". "Do not value the things you have in your life, But value who you have in your life!"

it is the same as the saying that goes "the heart forgives, but the mind never forgets"....the mind is placed above all organs of the human body so as to decide on what to do and what to forget, the heart is there so as to let you feel something about a certain thing....if you learn to forgive then there is no problem in forgetting...the healing of a pain does not take overnight, it requires a lot of healing process...and thus the forgetting stage...we learn to forget certain things that are good but we never tend to forget things that hurt us...have you ever thought of that?

it can take me awhile but most times I end up forgiving, may be not forgetting altogether but to forgive as I look at myself and think I am not perfect and life is way too short to not forgive the people that deep down you really do care about, it is good for the soul to have no negatives...

I am a person who cannot hold a grudge. I will tell you that you hurt my feelings, or that you disappointed me. Usually the person will apologize and I will live and let live. It is kind of like that poem where the person talks about when the person let them down they wrote it in the sand but when they did something really great they carved it in stone. Just try to remember the good people do and you too shall soon learn to forgive and forget.