whose to blame?
By Thethe
@Thethe (57)
Philippines
July 6, 2007 6:24pm CST
I left my wife and my child coz' she's unfaithful to me... but she keep on blaming me for abandoning them... At first i have a job and giving support for my kids and now that i'm jobless, she never understand my situation and keep on reminding my responsibility to them...How can i start my new life if no single cents left in me....I have my job now but a little income....
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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6 Jul 07
Who else is there to blame for you not taking care of your kids? It's not your wife's fault if you are not paying support and it's definitely not your children’s fault. Get a second job, you have a responsibility.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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7 Jul 07
You be realistic, it's not up to her but a judge! They set the fee you pay based on your salary. IF any of this crap is true that you are posting, then you would know that already.
You be real and stop it with the excuses. Those kids didn't ask to be born and they sure as hell didn't force themselves on you. She does her part in raising them and you should too. Again, stop feeling sorry for self and get a second job if needed. It's about your kids, not you.
@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I too was like you. I had a stepdaughter and two of my own..a girl and a boy. I had to got to jail for a night ..and I was paying child support but the friend of court screwed up my records. I was jobless and was constantly threatened by friend of the court. and yes i was reminded of my responsibility and I did the best I could but children are brainwashed by their mother and will mostly believe only what she says..even if she is not stable and irresponsible herself the mother is the one person in their life.
My children to this day have a grudge against me as I remarried a fine women with high morals and works good at home and on her job. But children may love their parents but rarely will they ever forgive their parents..so just keep doing the best you can.
It really is bad when you get behind in any debt but the Child Support and the Friend of the Court are worse then the mafia sometimes..they always treated me like a loser..not excuse was good enough for them.
Even if you are in a nut house...or in jail..or have a disease..these people always are after you..as they will call you a deadbeat dad..blah blah blah.but sometimes you cannot take blood from a stone
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