What would you do if you find your love one has an online lover?

@good1030 (673)
China
July 8, 2007 9:06am CST
What would you react if you find that your love one has an online boyfriend or girlfriend? Will you be very angry or you think it doesn't matter at all?
4 responses
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Jul 07
Since my husband and I met online ourselves, online interactions are something that we take rather seriously in a way. While we both have many online friends, we always talk about our friends with each other, and keep informed on things going on in those relationships. If I were to discover that he were doing something he hadn't told me about, or that something he had told me wasn't quite true, there would be a bit of an issue with it. However, as of yet in the eight years we've been together, I've never had to worry about this. I know a lot about his close online friends, and am very comfortable with them. If he were to become involved with someone online to the point where it could be considered breaking our agreements, then obviously it's something we would have to discuss, but I really doubt it would be instant divorce time or anything.
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@gilly123 (157)
8 Jul 07
As there is no physical contact,i don`t see any problem!
@good1030 (673)
• China
9 Jul 07
Hi lecanis, before I saw your comment, I always thought that online relationships are very hard or even impossible to real life relationships, but now I believe it will. Thank you for your response and sharing your story with us!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
9 Jul 07
*nods* I consider myself pretty lucky that my online relationship did transition into an excellent offline one! Over the years talking to people about it, I've met many other people with the same experience though! I think meeting people online is just the same as meeting people anywhere else: you have to be careful, but you can make some really fulfilling connections. =)
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• United States
10 Jul 07
There was a time when this would have really bothered me. But, my husband and I have grown so much now and we are both really like best friends with benefits. These sorts of things don't bother me, because I know that his heart is with me. Anything he does while he is online with someone is just entertainment. And vice versa.
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@good1030 (673)
• China
11 Jul 07
Thank you for your response and I am so happy to see that you and your husband with such a good relationship!
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
i will not like it though i met my boyfriend through online..i always get paranoid when i see my boyfriend ghosting on the messenger, i feel like he is talking to someone and that he was hiding from me..
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@good1030 (673)
• China
9 Jul 07
I think it is because you and your boyfriend also knew each other through internet so you felt qualms when your boyfriend talked to others online. Maybe you should try to let yourself trust your boyfriend since you both love each other.
@raredog (743)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
I would kill her! Joke! I'll just tell her to stop it immediately because in the long run it's either she would hurt the guy or she would hurt me. Which she would not let if she loves me.
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@good1030 (673)
• China
8 Jul 07
And the you should also kill the guy she's dating! Joke too! This is really a sane choice! Thank you for your response!