When you get angry, how do you keep from having a meltdown?

United States
July 8, 2007 6:33pm CST
When someone is being purposely rude and beligerant to you, how do you hold your temper when you really feel like you want to yell at the top of your lungs? How do you keep your cool, when you feel like you're boiling up inside and want tp lash back against them?
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@DanaMark (807)
• United States
9 Jul 07
If it is someone I don't feel like I can respond to at the time, I take a deep breath and go to another room to cool down. I'm not good at confrontation, so I have become pretty good at putting things off. I think that is bad in the long run, but that's how I have done it all my life. I never saw my parents express anger toward each other or toward other people (just us kids), so I never learned how to deal with anger. Now I'm paying the price for it by not being able to confront people when I should.
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@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
I used to be like that and I know it's hard because we keep it all bottled up inside us and making us believe that we have already dealt with the situation, and when a smilar one occurs again, we tend to brought up all waht's inside so it doesn't get any better. Now, I am still learning to speak up, and talk or just let them know I'm mad and that i don't like this or that...It is not easy but it feels good.
@olyngurl (149)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
i just don't talk.. i keep my self calm..
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@jolenegreen (1209)
• United States
12 Jul 07
When HUbby and I are argueing. I alwasy walk up to my room and lay in my bed. I just walk away from him. Ive never really had any other experiances where I had to keep my mouth shut, LOL
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
If I don't want to yell at the person but want to yell at the top of m,y lungs..I will just go out and yell or scrumpled things on my hand..need to release the anger or else it will disturb me. My cousin taught me this too, to count numbers repeatedly after and after so the anger would ease down and then talk or deal with it.