I need a partner who is suprime then me...
By magica
@magica (3707)
Bulgaria
July 9, 2007 9:08am CST
I saw some discussions where the ladies confess that they need a partner who is suprime: he is more inteligent, more financially secure, stronger...etc...He is just better. And i saw a very good question there:
- Well, ladies, you are looking for someone BETTER then you. You want to serve somebody suprime. Why then you complain then the men underestimate you?
Very good question...Do all of us here are aware at this paradox? Do you think that the ladies sometimes are the reason to be treated as something submissive and underestimated?
And do you want your male partner to be BETTER then you? In everything? Really?
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6 responses
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
10 Jul 07
I don't feel the same. My husband is my equal. Sure, there are things he does better than me, and there are things I do better than him - so it all balances out. Yes, he's stronger than me, but I am gentler than he is. We earn the same salary for our jobs. He's a great dog trainer, I'm a great gardener. We're both good at building things, and we work well together. He's a wonderful cook, I'm good at laundry. A good relationship is a good balance of what each person brings to the relationship. I would never want either of us to feel diminished in the presence of the other. We make a good team, and I think that's why our relationship is going to last forever - like the vows we made when we got married.
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@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
9 Jul 07
We want someon bigger and stronger and more successful because we want to be with a man that we respect and admire. That does not mean we want to be underestimated. Just because my husband can do things that I can't is no reason for him to disregard the things that I can do. We want you to actually BE right all the time, not just THINK you are, and if WE are right and YOU are wrong we want you to be confidant enough in yourself and enough of a man to admit that. That is when we get annoyed.
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@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
16 Jul 07
I know I would not go that far at all. As much as I want the man to be intelligent, I don't want him to be any better than me off course.
@recycledgoth (9894)
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16 Jul 07
I hae always felt that we should be equals, my partner and I have held to this for a long time now and we share. He is a fantastic guitar player, I can't play a note. I can design and make costumes, he can't sew a button, but we are still equal.
@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
16 Jul 07
I haven't noticed any discussions like that... but why is a man "better" if they make more money and are stronger? I don't see how that makes them "better" or supreme.
I do not care if my significant other is more financially secure than I am or stronger than me.. or if he is more intelligent. Intelligence is a matter of opinion anyway.
I don't think anyone, man or woman, has the right to try to control another person, nor should they underestimate them. If someone in the relationship is not feeling like an equal, then there is bound to be unhappiness there.
@crazypumpkin (501)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
Nope I am not after somebody better than but someone who will treat me with respect and will see me as a partner and not somebody who is there to serve them hand and foot.I also want him to be financially secure not because I want to depend on him for support but he should have the means to support himself and not depend on me, and no I don't want Superman, because I am not Wonder woman.
