Why don't they just get over it!!!

@muscare (3069)
Australia
July 12, 2007 12:13am CST
My wife doesn't have contact with her immediate family, for very good reasons, and she is just starting to get her life back into some form of normality. Yesterday, she got a letter from her nanna, the one who has supported her all through the 'break- up', saying that her son( who, by the way, made her write the letter), my wife's father, has been on her case saying that she is not allowed to have any more contact with us. He has also done this with the rest of my wife's relatives. This is from someone who says everyone is allowed to have their own opinion. Yeah, if it is his!!! My wife is getting on with her life, why can't they? Why drag the extended family into it? I think it is pathetic! What are your views?
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@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
12 Jul 07
I agree that they are out of line....but apparently this is a regular habit of theirs...OR some other reason is keeping your wife away from them.... I understand and have cut all ties with any relatives on my Mother's side...it makes life easier...less drama Good luck to you and your wife in dealing with this situation.....
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
12 Jul 07
My wife's psychiatrist has a very good name for the in-laws, especially the mother. She calls her 'toxic'! And she is, they both are. We put up with their crap for quite a few years, but once my son started to get older, and understand stuff that was being said, that was enough.
• United States
12 Jul 07
How terrible is that? Sounds like she made a good choice, to get away from them. Seems as if nanna has her own opinion, which would be what everyone else wants her to think. I'm glad your wife is moving past all of the heartbreak. I know from personal experience it can be very hard. I haven't talked to my family in a long time, for my own good reasons, but every once in a while I feel like I could just pick up the phone and call one of them. Luckily I get my senses back before I actually do. :o)
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
12 Jul 07
Well, my wife has been in and out of psych hospitals since she was fifteen, with her parents being largely the problem. Her nanna does have her own opinion, but my wife's dad is very manipulative, and convincing and has a way of using guilt trips on people, as does his wife. My wife has taken a huge step, doing what she had to, but she has been all the better for it.