which do you prefer to be just a plain housewife or a working wife?
@mscongeniality (110)
Canada
July 12, 2007 1:36pm CST
When I got married I never thought ending as a plain housewife. All I know is that I love the man i am marrying and i wanted to be with him for the rest of my life. Not thinking of how i will end up living with him. There is no regrets of marrying him but i never thought that it will also be the time of decisioning. When i gave birth to our first born child and my husband told me to just stay at home and look after our baby i never thought that it will be the end of working in an office full of paper works. Now my office is my home and my paperworks are my kids and my husband. Thinking of what i will cook for them, what suit is best for them to wear. Doing the laundry, ironing their clothes, cleaning the house. Helping my kids with their school assignments and be the prettiest babe for the man i married. It's a quick decision, i decided to stay at home and take good care of them. I thought after some time when i can leave my child after the care of some relatives or nanny i can go back to work. But it did not happen coz after 2 years here i am again pregnant to our 2nd child. oh well, it doesnt matter i told myself, coz after some time like my plan before i can go back to work when i am ready to leave my children after the care of some relatives or a nanny. Time goes by...i personally take good care of all the needs of my children... playing and being with them all the time. Although tiring, but the happiness i've earned is exceptional and is really rewarding. But there came a time that i wanted to go out and find a job and the things i am doing as a plain housewife seems so boring. I sometimes dreamt of having my old job and still working in my co-employees. But i wonder...if i am working can i give this attention to my children and husband? Can i be the best mom to my children or a wife to my husband? Most of the working married women i met ends with an argument with there husband and the worst they end up separating. The most affected people are their children.
This is so sad.
When i take my vow to my husband and let him enter my life and be his wife i promise to be with him no matter what and live my life with him until my last breath. It is true that sometimes husbands and wives do have some misunderstanding and fights but i guess this is just a test for their relationship and as a good wife all i have to do is give my loyalty, respect, and trust to my husband so that this marriage will work out to what we expected.
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@Juanamomof5 (429)
• United States
12 Jul 07
I too am a stay at home mom five years now. I used to work and pay family to watch my kids. My hubby and I had a talk and we both decided for me to stay home. Don't think of yourself as a plain housewife think of yourself as a
1) Chef since you do all the cooking
2) Accountant since you make sure all the bills are paid
3) Customer Service since you settle disputes about things at home
4) Personal Assitant since you have to make all the dr appt
You see if you look at it this way you are everything but plain. I know its hard since we were used to doing our own thing but now a days its hard to trust who you leave your children with. Happy postings
@mscongeniality (110)
• Canada
14 Jul 07
you're right that's one of the reason why i choose to stop working. i wanted to be sure that my children are in good hands and their safety is so important to me. And as we know children of today are much different from what we are before. They are more advance in the way of thinking and analyzing things. So without the proper guidance they may lead to wrong doings and find the wrong friends. So we, mothers are much responsible to our children...
@staceybug (7)
• United States
13 Jul 07
staying home is more difficult than working. I can not stay at home with my children. We have done fine; however, things would have been different if I could have stayed home.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
12 Jul 07
I prefer to be at home with my children, but that is not the only way. If someone can juggle both career and family, then that is for them. Maybe you would feel better to work part-time, that way you have an outside job, but you still have the energy for your family. I would say just give it a try and if it doesn't work out, then you can always go back.
@kimthedane (945)
• Denmark
13 Jul 07
Wauw, i am full of respect for you, finally a woman that knows where she stands and what it takes to make her husband happy. Credit and respect to you
