What is your role as a wife?

Australia
July 12, 2007 6:42pm CST
I used to have a neighbour that always told me that her role as a wife was to clean her house and look after her husband so that he could go to work and support them, she was absolutely horrified when we went over there one night for a BBQ and my partner helped out with the washing up, she told him that was a womans job and he should be out in the back yard drinking not doing house work. Now she didnt work and hasnt since she has had her children. My partner and I do things a bit differently over this side of the fence and he helps me with the washing up, makes the beds if I dont and helps me out as much as he can, I also go to work on his days off to help with the financial side of things and this works out really well for us, so can you tell me what your role is as a wife? Do you agree with my way or her way or are you a bit in between?
2 responses
@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
15 Jul 07
When I worked outside of the house we both did the house work. Now that I am the stay at home parent I do the house work. It is my job to keep the children and the house while he is at work. However on the weekends my husband does the dishes for me, its his way of saying thank you for all i do. I know it sounds like very little but I have a skin condition so he really is helping me out. To me our roles are defined by what we do, if my husband was the stay at home parent then he would be keeping the house and children while I worked.
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• Australia
15 Jul 07
It sounds like you have it all worked out together, isnt it amazing how much someone doing the dishes for you can help you out when you are a busy mum?
@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
16 Jul 07
First thanks for the best response. I can't tell you how much help him doing the dishes is for me. It may only be on the weekends but it allows me to get other things done, like baking.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
12 Jul 07
I think we take each others strengths and use that to our advantage. My husband may not help out much with the household chores, but when it comes to cooking, he does the majority, especially if we have visitors staying with us. He is so much better in that department than I am. Even though he works full time and I take care of my son at home, he always gives me time out after he gets home and spends time with his son, while I have a few hours break to rest or read or whatever. When it comes to finances both of us decide what is best for our family, and he always consults me first before we make a joint decision on what to do. He takes care of the bigger things and I take care of the smaller day to day things. We work quite well as a team.
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• Australia
15 Jul 07
OH I am jealous that your man can cook, my partner is a terrible cook! But then he is good at gardening and keeping the yard looking lovely so I am happy with that! It sounds like you guys work well as a team!
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