How would you react

I would be asking him a million questions on how he met this young lady and I would expect him to tell me ALL (well not all) but the main things I would like to know about her, her family, her background and so forth. I would hope that I have brought him up to respect his parents and to be open about his life and relationship/s especially if it is one that is serious or more than just "friends". It really does not bother me where that person came from, as my sons happiness is all I am concerned about. I would be interested in meeting her though and getting to know her if this relationship was getting serious, after all it is his decision who he dates and marry's in the end. He has to be the one that is happy in his life and I'll support it as much as I can. I don't know about his father though, that is a another story LOL.

I remember when I told my parents that I am in love with an English man. My father was like 'what? finally you found someone who can stand you?' LOL his work allowed him to see and talk to foreigners, although it's mostly field work. my mother said 'well you always like those people' with those people she meant those who are not of our ethnic, she is very proud of our culture. but the wedding happened and we've been together for almost 7 yrs now. I would lie if I said it's easy, but we made it so far. There are good and bad people in every culture, country or religion. You should see this person your child has a crush on, find out as much as you can and then you can let him or her know what you think.

Well my 10-year-old fell head over heals for a black boy last year. He was a sweet child and very, VERY smart. I was more worried over her starting this stuff now at such a young age. I can't remember having crushes so young. Never the less, she did and while many of my family had issues with it, since she showed off his picture to everyone, her Daddy and I stood our ground with them. We don't care if she dates and marries a green women, if they love and treat my daughter with respect, we will support them. When I leave this world, I want to go knowing both my girls have someone that loves them just as much as I do to continue life with them. I can't put boundaries or limits on them finding that person, you know?

No, I wouldn´t be. I am a Canadian and my husband is Guatemalan. My father was not impressed when I started dating my husband. He no longer speaks to me now that we have two (half and half, the horror!) children. My husband´s family had difficulties accepting me as well, especially his mother. She still makes comments, saying things like "Well, your son is weaker than us because he´s half Canadian." So, knowing how it feels, I would not be judgemental if my sons decided to date or marry a foreigner. I would, however, warn them of the reception they might face from the woman´s family!

I would have to meet the person and make sure that this person would treat my child right. I have no problem with them dating a foreigner. I would have to make sure that my child and this foreigner are truly in love. Otherwise, I have no problem towards this. I want my children to be happy and if this person makes them happy, then I will support it.

My daughter is 11 but doesn't date at all but I know she does find a darker boy more attractive than lighter boys. Here there are mostly white acadian decent so even we (ukranian decent) are very weird to them. I am from away Toronto LOL and my childern are considered foreign because I raise my childern differently then most people here. There has only been 2 boys in her school that are dark and she thought they both were cute. I don't care as long as she is happy. LOL Vicki

I would want to meet his/her new love and get to know his friend. I do not think that it would bother me. I just want them to be happy.

Since my bf is from a very different country and culture I know that I would accept it, just liek my parents have. They treat him just the same and they just want me to be happy wich I also am. I do belive that it is a good thing that we are so different, we learnnew things everyday =)

Well speaking as someone who has spent over 20 years living with a man from a completely different country/language and culture to my own, I would say it matters not a jot. All that matters is that two people love and respect each other. If my son or daughter wanted to starr a relationship with someonem all I would care about is wehther that someone loved and respected my child, and would give them a happy life. I don't care about religion (it means nothing to me), and people are people in my eyes, regardless of the colour of their skin, or the language they speak. We are all citizens of the world, and love is the only all-important emotion that can bind people together. If my child found that I wouldn't care who with!!!

Does anyone know who to fall in love with. Should children be any different. What makes there choices any worse or better than other people around us. Lets face it relationships can be bad with in our own culture and religion. They can also be great. I guess I would let my children chose love for themselves and if it's bad I'd be there for them, If it's good I'd be there for them. What Im trying to say you dont know until its good or bad. goodluck

I think the only thing that would make it hard for me is where they would live. Unless of course they both live in the same country already. If my son/daughter was going to move to their lovers country, I would be very sad because I couldn't see them much but I would be able to go visit another culture and country! I love meeting people from all over the world and of different cultures than my own. I spent about five years of my life traveling/volunteering in several other countries. I always thought I would marry someone from abroad, but found love in my home country instead. I couldn't judge my kids for doing what I did! As long as their love respects my family then I would do my best to respect them as well.

I think it should be the child's choice.You should advice but should not say anything that might hurt their partner.It doesn't matter where he/she is from as long as they love each other.Music is universal and so is love.

For me being a foriegner is not an issue when in comes to love. The real issue here is... does he/she really care and love your daughter/son? How will you accept their relationship and how will you threat them well. Being a foriegner is not a hindrance for love what is important is that they are happy being together and really love each other. Why will you care about other people will say. Who are they to judge? Think about your child's happiness. When you know that this person cares for your child a lot and he/she'll do and give everything for him/her. Why will i object? Ofcourse, there is one problem that i will be concern with... it's when they get married and my child decided to live with their country then i will not see them often. but anyway i will be competent that my child is in the right hand. Love is not exclusively for just the same race. That's the reason why love has so many definitions and even sometimes hard to define.

If my son or daughter would bring a lover home from a different culture, I would try to embrace that culture and be tolerant of any differences between us. My family is mainly Swedish, but my cousins girlfriend is from Etiopia. At their daughters christening, Swedes and Etiopians came together to eat eachothers food and spend time in eachothers company. I would be very tolerant as long as I know that he/she is treating my child right.

I wouldn't have any problem with it as long as they didn't fall in love with a Muslim. Even then I don't think it would bother me unless they said they were going to convert. I would embrace them falling in love with someone from another culture our country even it would be a great opportunity to learn something new and maybe I would even get a chance to go to another country.

i dont have a daughter and im not married yet. but im a daughter myself and i wouldnt want my mother to be judgemental on whoever i am dating. i'd want her to be open-minded and she should know first the man i love. she shouldnt be biased, just because my bf is of different race with different cultures, doesnt already mean he's bad. she should give him the chance to prove himself to her and she should take time to know him. ^__^

I would let him to choose his marriage though I would give him some advice about it. If my son chooses to fall in love with a foreigner, it shows that they must have something in common that brings them together. I would not be judgemental. Life is his to explore though. So long as he is happy, I would be happy as well. Thanks for your topic, my dea friend.

As long as the person is making my GROWN child (they can't date until they are like...hmmm say like 50ish LOL) happy and are treating them good then I would be all for it. There are jerks from all nationalities, not just one group of people.

No i would not be phased about it. I would be more concerned about how the person would treat my son/daughter. Frankly I don't care if he/she's christian, muslim, jewish, native indian, heck he/she can worship chairs for all I care. Their religion isn't the issue, the issue I care about is how are you gonna treat my child. Cause if you don't treat them right you'll incur my wrath.

Yes, it will certainly make a difference to me. I am not against foreigners. I respect their culture. But marriage is a life-long relationship. People can adjust but that to a certain limit. It will be very difficult to adjust to live under the same roof with a person who belongs to a completely different culture. On hearing from my son/daughter, I will tell them my views.