Do you have a friend who owns a shop and gives freebies only to you?
July 13, 2007 11:36pm CST
I have. But this incident really made feel guilty. I have a friend named Chester, and he owned a new candy shop in the neighborhood. He’s the type who can easily say yes to people but never takes no for an answer, and I find that disturbing. Since I’m his close friend, he insists on giving freebies to me whenever I pass by his shop. At first, I don’t want to accept any of his candies but he keeps on insisting so I had to give in. His candies are really good, by the way. Then one day, my friends accompanied me on the way home. My mistake was to tell them that the owner of the candy shop nearby always gives me freebies whenever I pass by. My friends then became so eager that they wanted freebies, too. That made me feel uncomfortable because they’re already gabbing about what candies. When we passed by the candy shop, we saw Chester already carrying a bag of candies. He looked mildly surprised that I was with my friends so he took a few steps back to the shop. However, my friends rushed to him and asked whether he gives freebies to people or not. Maybe he felt embarrassed to tell my friends that he’s only giving freebies to me so he told them yes. I was horrified. Everyday, my friends will always accompany me and they always insist of stopping by the candy shop. I pleaded them not to ask Chester for freebies but they won’t listen. Now, I’m afraid that Chester’s losing money because of my friends. I told him to stop giving freebies because he might lose his shop but he said it’s all right. I feel so guilty now! What should I do? I know he’s just forced to give freebies to my friends because of me… *sob!*
• United States
17 Jul 07
So apparently it was a mistake to tell your friend's that he gives you freebies when you pass by the shop. I would be angry that your friends didn't listen to you asking them not to bother him and are actually asking him for freebies. however it also depends on the amount. Most sweets shops give a few samples, so if it's just a candy every now and then it's not a huge deal. But everyday is excessive. Also the idea behind giving freebies is enticing people to buy some. So if they're actually buying sometimes it's not such a big deal either. I would be firm and direct and tell my friends exactly how I feel and how they are affecting the candy shop and your friendship with Chester. If they don't listen I would never walk home with them past the shop, and honestly I might be so angry at their disrespect for my wishes and lack of self-control around candy that I would no longer consider them friends.
18 Jul 07
you're right. i can probably tell my friends off or find new set of friends.. i don't know why their so inconsiderate about chester's situation. they can really be abusive, you know, knowing that the only reason chester's giving freebies also to them is because he'll feel embarrassed not to since he's giving freebies to me.. wish i had the gut to tell my friends off.
14 Jul 07
Maybe because he likes you as his friend, in fact it's okey if he gives you only once not everytime u passby to his shop...for me I can always say no to him and tell him that he's too much better give that to other people...
• United States
8 May 08
Wow! He is very sweet maybe he likes you a lot and willing to sacrifice anything for you! ANyway, it's not also fair to his business, he might be closing soon because of that! LOL, Maybe you have to tell him that seriously he needs to stop it and just tell to your friends that his promo is over! It was just a sample and it all gone, back to the business now! and if you're friends will not listen to you, we can't blame them, who in this world doesn't like free after all! LOL