Soul Mates?

India
July 15, 2007 7:09am CST
Do you believe in them? Why? Why not? Me, I think they're a matter of pure fiction. I think people fantasize about soul mates and then use them as some sort of ideal. Sometimes this fantasy is so powerful it drives people away from the partner they're with, not so much because their 'soul mate' is so great, but because they are having a hard time dealing with the imperfections of a person they know inside-out. The soul mate becomes a yard stick - someone that is difficult, if not impossible, for their partner to measure up to. Not because the partner is so bad, but because it's all in the head of the person who's doing the judging. Soul mates are fiction, dude...they're an escape, just like a bottle of booze. Your thoughts.
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@navtech (1776)
• India
18 Jul 07
Dear touchnshine, you are partially right and partially wrong. I agree girl or boy visualise about their soul mate before marriage. When they get married, they get frustrated due to the fantasy they had created in their mind and as you said "fantasy is so powerful it drives people away from the partner, they are with. They are unable to cope with reality since they are living in different world. I know a lot of couples, they live/lived throughout their life for each other. They never fought, not even had any small quarel. They understand each other well. They knew how to behave in a given situation and circumstances. There are millions of soul mates on this earth.
• Canada
23 Jul 07
First of all I do not subscribe to the idea of one person's opinion being 'right' and the other 'wrong.' Who makes either one the absolute authority when sharing perceptions and perspectives? Just because people have a different opinion does not make it wrong...just different. So why not just agree to disagree? I was going to share my perspective....then when I read how you judge everybody 'right' and 'wrong' I decided not to bother. I prefer to participate in discussions where everyone's opinions are honored...whether in agreement or not. Just my perspective of course.
@navtech (1776)
• India
26 Jul 07
Dear touchnshine, I do not intend to hurt your feelings. I wrote based on reality. In case you are hurt I regret and not my intention to hurt anybody.
@rb200406 (1825)
• India
15 Aug 07
i agree with you.i have never believed in this concept not love at first sight.this are all the method to escape from reality.practically all this are purely fiction.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
16 Jul 07
actually I disagree fully with that...I do very much believe in soulmates and have a few of them in my life....My "other man" is my soulmate...both of my sons are soulmates of mine (my youngest who passed away was very much so) and so on.... Ppl mistake the term "soulmate" to mean a lover or as in an intimate sense but thats not the case at all....Sure we do have an intimate soulmate but we have other types of soulmates as well....ppl we are connected to for eternity..our kindred souls/spirits are our soulmates as well....
• Philippines
15 Jul 07
At first, I don't believe in soul mates. But believe it or not later in my life I do! But the question now is, how will you know if he or she is your soul mate? As for my experience what is not perfect about me he loves aside from my perfect things in me that he loves, we think the same way... there are times that I was just thinking of a certain thing to do when I turn to him he's doing it already or vice versa... also there are times that I was just thinking of the thing to say to him, then he is telling me it already. Wierd huh? But true!