Should you move in with your lover before marriage?!?

United States
July 18, 2007 10:38am CST
I definitely think that moving in with someone before marriage is a great idea. The older generations tend to disapprove of this, but why? Divorce is so common these days and there's a lot of things you don't know about a person until you move in with them. So why not find out these things before you get married to prevent an unwanted divorce??
3 responses
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
well for me, moving in with your lover before marriage would be a nice idea, if you're really both happy and in love,why not right? people nowadays are getting open to this kind of situations, but not to older people who are so conservative and traditional..don't mind what other people might say because its your life,no one can run your life but you.as long as you're not hurting other people, then do what makes you happy.
@shannon76 (1234)
• United States
18 Jul 07
it's not just "older" people that think that we should live together before marriage.. unless you consider a 30 year old, "old". I was 26 when my husband and I started dating seriously and we has always decided not to live together. And it might be traditional but it is what worked best for us. This is my 2nd marriage and I did live with my first husband before we got married.... Obviously that didn't work out.
• United States
19 Jul 07
I agree that is it a great idea. However my uncle and aunt lived together for about a year before marrage and every thing was great. The got married and every thing want down hill. They then got a divorce and everything was great again. The did this about two more times and just figured out that marrage thing was just making things bad for them and now they have lived together for year with out a problem. But as they have been together so long they are under comman law marrage but it is one of those things that you dont think about. For gay people it is a must. Yes, I know that they can not be married but it is better to know if you can live together before you take a big step.
@DRoddy77 (1780)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I agree! When u live with someone you find out all of there annoying little habits and you learn how they act all the time. I think it's better to live with someone first before making that big of a commitment..because Divorce shouldn't be such an easy option these days!