Do religion and/or culture matter in a relationship?

@carol_m (709)
Philippines
July 18, 2007 7:32pm CST
My friends had been debating whether religion and/or culture really are to be considered when going into a relationship. Any insights?
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Jul 07
I think it's something that has to be considered and discussed, but that doesn't mean that cultural and religious differences can't be overcome within a relationship. My husband and I are from different religions, and we've been together for over eight years now, and the key for us is communication and respect. We had to discuss things like what to do about holidays, what to teach our child, and many other issues revolving around religion. What's interesting for myself and my husband is that we really have a lot of the same values and ethics, even though we have very different beliefs. Most religions in fact include many of the same values, so often it's easier than you'd think to get along with people of other religions. While we might not worship the same Gods, we make decisions about how to live our lives based on very similar codes of honor and rules.
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@carol_m (709)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
Thanks for that. I do believe that the success of any relationships boils down to how the 2 people involved carry that out. Understanding and communication are just two of the many important factors.
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@Angela07 (202)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I think religion/culture should be discussed because they are twoo very important topics.
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@beckish (614)
• United States
19 Jul 07
Religion and culture could be serious topics for conflict in a relationship, so I think it is important to make sure the two people can agree to disagree on certain things before they become seriously involved.
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• Canada
19 Jul 07
It really depends on the people. If religion and culture matters to the two people, they either need to come to an agreement to make it work, or go their separate ways if it won't work. I personally, would not let religion or culture break up my relationship. In my case we came to agreements, and we are attending eachother's churches and adapting to eachother's cultures We are not going to change our religions or citizenships or names for eachother, we will continue to be who we are, even after marriage.
@carol_m (709)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
Thank you for that.
@tlaquan (177)
• United States
12 Dec 08
yes it does the man the runs the store around the corner is a arab and he has 27 wives at home at 2 girl friends here . i would not want him for my husband or boyfriend would you . muslims believe that all females should be clothed from head to toe i cant do that the stuff that they weat just look s to hot for me they also dont eat pork and wont allow it in their house so yes religion and culture do matter
@vanonas (950)
• United States
12 Dec 08
Religion and culture matter a lot in a relationship. I don't think I could be with someone who would want me to convert to what they were. Or if their parents asked me to. I'd think it were wrong because I wouldn't ask someone to convert for me. I can't change what someone believes in so they shouldn't try to change what I did. But it would cause conflict in how to raise our child and what religion to teach them.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
15 Mar 08
I think in every r/s there must be a give and take attitude, however, there are some issues which are really very difficult to draw a line. Especially, when one party is dogmatic in the area of religion. I would not want to stress the particular faith for there are just staunch believers in every religion and it is when they insist on the other party's acceptance and/or even conversion before marriage can be considered that is making r/s worked out. On the hindsight, there is also the issue for the couple involved when they are married where they will face with issues continuing with their different faiths. You will find that there will be differences and these differences sometimes will caused the r/s to be strained due to a division here. Then, there will be issues of the children adopting which faith and religious teaching(s), customs to observe and rites to follow. So I think we really need to consider all these factors and understand our own and own family's threshold. Hence, it will be prudent to give it some thought before committing. Just my 2 cents worth.
@ashisyed (40)
• Pakistan
14 Aug 07
well, i think that it really is important to look for religion or culture while getting into serious relationship,because even if both people agree on aspects and all, then there are many high chances of having clashes between the families of both.... i too am in very good terms with a person, who is of different religion, but i know the pros and cons of everything.
• India
19 Jul 07
Religion or culture its not matter in relationship ,the relation which is normally.....not phisycally...............but when u r going to maarry at the time it will be matter.............so take care when u r making relationship.....................