Do you always give out your hand when someone offers a handshake?
By mycharm88
@mycharm88 (2288)
Philippines
July 19, 2007 3:01am CST
As for me i always accept a handshake even to strangers and sometimes i initiate it myself with a smile.lol!! Yesterday i saw a friend from highschool and he introduced his companion. There i offered a handshake but was only given a smile..lol well... there are people like that, it was quite embarrasing but i just gave her my sweetest smile..hehehe
I was wondering how friendly are the people here in mylot. Do you always give out your hand for a handshake to anyone who offers a handshake or are you the one who always offer a handshake for newly acquainted friends? and what would you feel if someone refuses your friendly handshake? Do share your view...thanks.
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@milfea (519)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
Hello Mycharm88. :)
You may find this funny, but I'm not very sure if I usually do. Well, thinking through it, I always accept the hand that offers a handshake, but I cannot remember if I have ever given out my hand first. :).
I grew up in a community where men and women, are, in tradition, not sort of allowed to touch one another, or something like that. No one ever really set that as a rule, it had just become understood. So, I think I might try offering my hand first. :)
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
Hi there Milfea!!No i think you're ok lol... There really are some people who are not use to hand shaking with newly acquiated friends... As for me i just got use to it. But i do respect peoples perspective on this, some might not be ok with handshaking so i just leave it to that. I had several bad experience but anyway that's life.lol..on the other hand maybe you should try it heheh take care friend.
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@budsr03 (2350)
• Canada
19 Jul 07
If someone offers their hand i sure do! I don't usually initiate a handshake because i have white blotches on my hands, it's called vitiligo, and it makes me feel self -concious about handshakes. I always have a smile to offer though! Take care Mycharm.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
Aww... I use to have one in my cheek and this caused great insecurities too,but i had tried so many cures of vitiligo now it's barely noticable.. i'll pm you about this...Your smile made my day lol..tc
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 07
If it is offered yes I do but I never initiate it myself as such It used to come automatically when I used to meet new Clients and that when I was working, but it never was when I employed new Staff it was a hearty Hello and a smile that is how they preferred it and how I preferred it to
With Clients it was always different
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
Hello sweetie!!! very sorry for this late reply..
That is really true for the business associates, i guess it's an automatic gesture when introduced in the business world...how about for new introduced friends sweetie? take care...
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
19 Jul 07
Well,it is a kind of good manners.....so how can we insult someone by not shaking hand with him if he or she already offered it. I am always careful to see that nobody is hurt. But yes I am very careful about cleanliness, and try to avoid unhygenic hands.
If someone will refuse to shakehands with me, I think if possible I will never want to see his face again.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
So kind of you apsara... but people who refuse handshakes sure have some reasons, maybe they are too shy or anything like it. I had that experience though, he was just too shy to take my hand.lol...
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
Hello little sis. I don't normally offer my hands for anyone to shake off, lol! If somebody offered to shake my hands, then I will graciously accept it. Otherwise, I will give them a smile. It really depends on whom the person are offering their hands. There are people who intentionally used this gesture because of other "reasons."
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
Hello Big sista!.. I just offered a handshake lately and was glad that it was accepted... there are really times where in newly acquainted friends are hesitant on the handshake but i still do it anyway. i wish i could give you a handshake too personally sis..
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
19 Jul 07
Normally i give handshakes to people who are professionally related to me. Others i just say hello. I think when u meet someone who was professinally related to u, then handshake comes automatically. But, when u meet friends, you end up saying hi or hello.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
yup! i agree lavender!!lol handshake comes automatically w/ professionals and I think it's alright to just say hello to friends..handshake is something deeper than greeting a friend though.
@pendragon (3350)
• United States
19 Jul 07
Usually I do, I like to shake hands.If I don't that means you're really someone I don't care to meet,lol.If someone refused me then I'd watch 'em carefully.
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
19 Jul 07
If someone offers there hand in a handshake, it's only polite to offer yours in return. I mean, it seems kind of rude, since a handshake is a rather formal, and sometimes informal hello between people that just met and people that are pretty good friends. I think whenever you refuse something like this, it kind of makes you seem hostel to the other person, like you're really not interested in meeting them and what not. Unless you have a problem with this person, then it's rather rude to refuse.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
I think you have a very good point there angel... but know they have there own reasons why refuse a hand, but i'm just glad we're in the same boat here.lol
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Jul 07
Very Interesting post!
I on my part will always go for handshake, when somone offers a hand to me....even if I am in hurry and something like that. It is one of the best manner to greet each other. I think in your case, your approach was absolutely correct, however, the other fellow, who just smiled was not courteous enough.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Aug 07
Thanks for your positive comments and gesture!
Have a nice day!
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
Thanks dpk for your kind words... I think so too, it's the best manner in greeting friends and accepting new friends...hugz to you friend.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
Whether I offer or accept a handshake depends on the situation I am in. If the situation calls for me to offer the handshake or accept the handshake, I glad offer or accept. Beyond that, it is up to my discretion. I am not one to befriend strangers easily.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
That's alright whyaskq. i know you have your reasons. I have friends like you and i still love them. No difference at all.Take care...
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
19 Jul 07
I do actually always give my hand if someone initiates the handshake. However there have been a few times I have avoided being put in that situation when I have been feeling extremely insecure and intimidated. Does anyone else ever feel that way? Have you ever avoided the handshake?
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
Hello coffee, i think it's normal to sometimes feel like that. It happened to me too along time ago and after that i regretted it for i think it was rude of me. That's why now i'm trying as much as possible to never refuse a handshake for it is never wrong if you are offered one, i guess it's a sign of acceptance.
@molusk (857)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
A good afternoon to you, mycharm88. Firm handshake
with a smile is something that seems automatic for me. There was only
one time when my offered handshake was refused. It was with a new
business associate with a bandaged hand from an accident which I failed to notice. It is always good to know somebody via a firm handshake, a smile and a steady eye contact which shows openness and sincerity in your dealings.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Good morning to you Molusk!!!
I havent been here for two days because i've been busy..lol anyway i definitely agree that a
handshake ,a smile and steady eye contact does show great sincerity in accepting acquiantances, not only that it shows the great person inside.lol i guess.
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@jogie_bien (1103)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
yes i will accept their hands when they make shake hands because when you dont accept it they will embarassed.so i do it for not embarassed someone, just formality.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
Good for your jogie, and it feels so nice to have new friends right? It's just right to always accept a handshake..
@senthil2k (1500)
• India
19 Jul 07
Yes, I do give out my hand when someone offers a handshake. I dont feel anything bad in doing that. In our country India, Men dont have any shy in giving out the handshakes, but women try to avoid the handshakes since many women dont like to do that. But handshakes have become more common nowadays in corporate world all over the world, so in India too.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
I think so too my friend, like here in our place, mostly men are the ones who initiates handshakes on casual friends, but in the business corporate world it's automatic...thanks for sharing your views on this. TC
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
20 Jul 07
Yes i do..well most of the time..when in passing i always say hello..and ask how they are doing..and i really want to know..i dont just keep walking like most peopel do..or i willjust give a hello and a huge smile especially to those that look like they want to kill someone..and usually after i smile..for the brief second..i feel like i made them a little less stressed..and when i meet people..i dont care who it is.i always give my hand out..its just the way i was raised..and its very nice to see others being the same way:)
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
Hi Cloud_kicker!!!
I think you are a very kindhearted person... I also give smiles to people too but you are much more.. I've only known a few like you, i say you are an angel :) keep that sunny smile because God sees your heart.take care and hugz to you..
@shenzhouplaza (1676)
• China
27 Jul 07
it is quite normal for people here to shake hand with each other to express their friendship.when we do business,meet old friends,or show our gratitude to some others, we always shake hands with each other.it seldom happen that some one refuses to shake hand with the other. It is regarded as a behaviour of impoliteness.I will shake hands with the people who extend their hands for handshake, even they are strangers
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
Same with me Shen!! You know what i like your avatar, i think it's cute.lol
I do think so that it's impolite to refuse such friendly gesture, but we cannot avoid the reality that there people who are like that, those who don't like handshaking, and i understand that they have their reasons why... i think you are friendly shen.. take care..
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
19 Jul 07
When someone offers his hand it is in the best interest to give him/her a great handshake. it is courtesy to the barest minimum..never hesitate doing it .
@lyndee22 (1210)
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
Yes I always accept a handshake even if he is a stranger to me. I just don't want to offend others by not accepting a handshake from them. It's a kind of insult on their part. I don't offer a handshake I just give my sweetest smile and nod at them.
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@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
Yup! offered handshake must be accepted, by the way one sweet smile is ok too...
@vampoet (825)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
Yea, to me it is a subconcious reaction. I dunno why I do it but yea, after I do it then I check to see if they do not have some form of electric buzzer or what not under their palm as a prank. Delayed reaction I know. Maybe she just didnt wanna touch you or what or maybe she saw you just steppin out of the toilet or something. hehe.
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
Hello vampoet..yup i agree on that! maybe she hates handshakes or just shy, she has her reasons and i respect that. What you've shared is funny though.lol thanks friend.
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
12 Aug 07
hello nahtan!! i do respect people's views about handshaking.. I admit it's embarassing when someone refuses, but for me i did nothing wrong. it's my way of accepting new friends or long lost friends or to welcome someone...
