my daughters reaction to my mothers death

July 20, 2007 7:05pm CST
My mother died just a few weeks ago. My daughter who is nine took the news very badly but seemed to recover quickly and things seemed to return to normal for her. I spent a lot of time with my mum during the last few months of her life as she became weaker and was understandably very upset when she died after being in considerable pain. Things have returned back to normal now and I am obviously back with my family. However, in the last month or so my daughter has complained of feeling unwell a lot of the time and is not eating well at all. I have visited the doctor with her and blood and urine tests have been taken with thankfully no problems. My doctor has now said he believes this is a reaction to my mothers death and has suggested councelling. My daughter often has a sad moment where she says she misses her nanna and cries a bit so i guess he may be right. I am feeling now that maybe i have not handled this very well as my daughter has just asked why I didnt tell her that her nanna was so ill that she as going to die. At the time i felt i was protecting her but maybe i did it all wrong. I still have my own grief to deal with but i so want my daughter to be well again and dont really know what to do next.
2 responses
@sugarfloss (2140)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 07
I'm sorry about your loss.Condolences to you and your family on the passing of your beloved mother.I know how it feels to lose a grandma,I cried so hard for a week that Mom brought me to a doctor and he explained to me it's alright to grief but only for a month,no longer than that.It's been a year now.I'm doing alright.I'm 25 but your daughter's 9.It must be harder for her to accept the fact.I hope she'll get well.Bring your daughter to visit her nana's grave.Maybe then she'll learn to let go.I hope this helps,juliereid.Love,Zal.
26 Jul 07
Thank you so much for your kind words Zal....Julie
@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
Oh!...Condolence I hope your daughter will get well soon...
26 Jul 07
thank you so much for your kind words ....julie