OKAY its official....I am done with my family
By Ravenladyj
@Ravenladyj (22904)
United States
July 21, 2007 6:39pm CST
This is the LAST F-ING STRAW!! Some of you know about my history with my family and the abuse etc etc that has gone on my entire life and so on...some of you know about how much I despise my mother, how cruel and abusive she has been to me and so on....Well I found out a few weeks ago that my idiot brother felt it was ok to get his daughter (MY NIECE) WHO IS ONLY 13 (14 end of this month) drunk....WELL didnt I just find out the other night and just had it confirmed that my brother allowed it again BUT THIS TIME MY MOTHER BOUGHT MY NIECE A 26oz OF VODKA!! I am FLOORED, DISGUSTED, FURIOUS, WORRIED (my niece now officially thinks getting drunk is COOL) and so on..
I'm done with these ppl...and I feel horrible about how I'm feeling about the situation....Part of me is GLAD my mother proved ONCE AGAIN how FKED IN THE HEAD she is...as did my brother..but i feel horrible becuase its at the expense of my nieces well-being and future ya know....
Am I wrong for feeling the way I do...I mean this is SICK AND TWISTED on so many flipping levels!!!
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15 responses
@superchook (1786)
• Australia
25 Jul 07
I don't blame you for being upset, I would be too if that was my niece. She is way too young to start drinking, especially because at that age it does seem cool to them being allowed to do this. Unfortunately your niece is likely to lose friends because of it too, as the parents of her friends are not going to want her near their children if they find out that she is allowed to drink sometimes.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Ya know, theres a part of me (as evil as this sounds) that HOPES one of her friends that she is drinking with goes home and their parents find out it was my mum and brother supplying it and they take legal action....I'm really in a bind right now for so many reasons ya know....Somehow though, they need to be busted for this....
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@superchook (1786)
• Australia
26 Jul 07
It doesn't sound evil, you are only thinking about your neice and you want what is best for her. Your brother and mother are adults and they should know better. They need to set a good example and it is clear that they are not in this matter. I would be angry too.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
22 Jul 07
Nope, you're not wrong. It is certainly sick and twisted what your family is doing. And you have every right to be done with them, considering everything I have seen you say about them around here.
I have been in the midst of trying to make decisions about how to deal with my own family for a while now, so I know how you feel. In my case, things are going better for the moment, but I'm making sure to keep in mind that my reinvolvement with my family is sort of a "trial run" and may still need to be stopped.
I wish you all the best!
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I can only imagine how upset you are and I dont want to make matters worse..but If it was me regardless of whether it was family or not I would report both your mother and brother to the child protection services. The child needs to be out of that home she is being suject to child endangerment. (Delinquency towards minors)
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
22 Jul 07
Like I just mentioned in the post above, she doesnt live there and as far as that home goes, man that aint even the half of it (what goes on there) and can you believe the niece I have staying with me, her MOTHER is living there (but wont do anything about it cause she "needs" to be there blah blah blah..).....As for calling F.A.C.S...I have no proof and this doesnt happen every weekend so its not like I can set them up and have a worker show up on a Sat night at 10-11 pm ya know.....
@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
21 Jul 07
You know what they say, about how you can't pick the family you were born into, but you can pick your own "family" through the friends you pick. If your family bothers you this much, try to distance yourself from them and all their issues as much as possible. I know, easier said than done!
Hey remember, what they also say, You can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friend's nose! HA hA! Hope that made you smile.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
22 Jul 07
"Hey remember, what they also say, You can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friend's nose! HA hA! Hope that made you smile"
LOL it did thank you...but I have to say I can pick my friends nose if I damn well want to ;-)
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I'm almost 40 fkin yrs old..no sh!t life has hard times....and "dont get emo"??? EXCUSE ME arent you a little old to be using labels??? If you cant be productive or at least sensible at your age..dont post :-/
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
24 Jul 07
as I've said a few times already in this thread....at this point in time calling Child Services is NOT an option for numerous reasons...and until I can find a way to manage that and have it be productive there I'm bound and trapped unfortunately
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
22 Jul 07
oMG!@ thats just the most insane and REDICULOUS THING I HAVE EVER HEARD IN MY LIFE! i too have had issues with my mom..shes mean hearted and spirted..always made sure i knew that she didnt like me..and a;lways favored my sister..she just killed my heart..and now that we bopth have kids..she has a daughter and i have Sky..again the cycle sflows with her making sure Serena gets everything and Sky gets nothing..arrghh! and yes alot of abuse went on as well..soo now that i vented..I think you did the right thing..i quit takin Sky to my moms..only holidays..and as for your niece..i would call children services asap! i dont care of there family or not..thats juts big BS!!and they are messing her up on so many levels..plzzzz get her some help! good luck my friend:)
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
23 Jul 07
OH MY GOODNESS!!!
I am so with you on this!
How can you now trust them with YOUR children!
That is just unspeakable! I can't believe they would do that! That's insane...what are they going to think if she grows up to be a drunk. Or she kills someone in a drunk driving accident. Now I realize that these things may not occur of course but anything is a possibility. And it's their responsibility to try to keep these things from her. Not letting her do them. WOW!
@sunshinecup (7871)
•
22 Jul 07
OH MG!!! Do they live to screw this child up as much as them or what? Heck yes you have every right to be sick of them, no offense but I am just as sick. What a low life thing to do to a kid. Man! You should see about getting custody as well as restraining warrants against them. This is just too sick!
@jal1948 (1359)
• India
22 Jul 07
your mother seems tohave failed as a parent and so too your brother but you allowing their action to upset you is not right you them and their behavior try and talk to your neice without giving her any advice maybe she will understand the situation better if not there is no point in letting these incidents upset you.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
24 Jul 07
No, you are not wrong to feel this way. This is so despicable. I sincerely hope you reported them to the proper authorities as this is the only way to stop these things. These people are doing something very wrong and there's nothing you can do personally to change it. Be thankful that you are away from them and that you have the strength and wisdom to cut yourself off from them because you are not like them. I'm sorry for your niece though. Your brother and mother need to suffer the cosequences of what they have done and they need to be stopped!!
@Springlady (3986)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Just try and be a good and positive role model for your neice. Let her know that you love her and care about her.
@teleios (737)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
i'm so sorry to hear about this, obviously your family has some serious issues that they need to deal with, and yeah, i agree with the others when they say that the best thing would be to distance yourself from them, since clearly having a relationship with them at this time would not prove healthy for you. i just wish that your nieces had that opportunity to be away from your brother too, since clearly he is not setting a good example by what he is doing letting his daughter drink like that...i hope everything will go well, although i don't think things will go better just like that. keep hanging on though, something better will always come out from stuff like this, no matter how bad the present looks like ;)
@bambi_doe (566)
• United States
22 Jul 07
Turn them in girl what are you thinking. These two are going to kill your niece. Where is this childs mother? These people need help and you are not the one to provide it for them. Call the police at tell them what is going on there. hugs and good luck
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
22 Jul 07
It is sad when someone has to say stuff like this about their family, but I don't think it was wrong of you at all! That is terrible what your 'mother' and brother did to your niece! That's illegal right? They are repeatidly getting nad underage girl drunk! Report them! That could really affect her health and her life in the future. One day she'll get drunk somewhere on her own and might get pregnant, or something else bad could happen.
This habit they are getting her into needs to stop soon! Or it's going to end up BAD!
