friends end up as lovers

Philippines
July 23, 2007 3:50am CST
Why do opposite person become friends, then best friends then end up as lovers? Then one you ended your relationship its like both of you were strangers. It really hurts when it happens, sometimes you want to save your friendship but its too late... Do you think its too late?
8 responses
@healer (1784)
• India
23 Jul 07
A few years ago when i was still in highschool i fall in loved with my best fren whom i befriended eversince i went to nursery; but eventually things couldnt work out between the two of us and we parted our own ways. And it hurt me a lot as i was feeling denied .And i vowed, never to see or talk to him again..But things changed for better last year when we met again after a gap of 3 years,we admited each others weakneses and from that day onwards he became my best fren again.. though i knew him no more as my lover. we share a very strong relationship upto this day..we have seen each others scar and that let us to help and understand each other in a better way .
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• Philippines
23 Jul 07
friends are always there for you, because of closeness there will be relationship. fall in love. but when time comes its hard to decide if we really love them as in real love or love them because you are close enough to be friends.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I don't know why they become friends, but this did happen to me. My former marriage, I married one of my best friends and after 10 years it didn't work out. We changed so much and we obviously didn't want the same things in life. We weren't able to save our friendship because of the events that happened, but I don't think it is ever too late to try. We are friendly and we do communicate still, but we will never have the friendship that we had before. But again, depending upon the situation, it is never too late, and sometimes it takes time to rebuild something special like that.
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• Philippines
23 Jul 07
I guess for me its too late... Because the friend I had before is now with the other girl. And I think that they loved each other, and they treasure one another, as for friends I really need to give it up the reason is I may be the cause that will end up their relationship. Its better to go far away from the person you like. And forget you became friends.
@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
23 Jul 07
If we bravely face it, everything will not be too late,always said too late, I think they lack courage afraid to face what had happened, not too hard, but in their hearts that their definitin already late, these friends often lose something important.
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@yamskee (830)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
for me if the feeling is mutual and we both feel the same thing,. there would be no problems but if its a one sided love, i will not tell the person because im afraid that it will destroy our friendship, ill focus my attention on other guys so that it wont hurt me.
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• China
23 Jul 07
Hi,I like this topic.Speaking of friends,everybody needs friends.We are all stressful in modern life.,we have to study ,we have to work,we have to pay bills, and so on.Sometimes we need to relax ourselves.We want to chat with our friends about everything we are interested in,we can also complain to our friends,and they must comfort us at the moment.We need to cherish our friendship,because it's precious. By the way,I don't think it's too late if you wanna save your friendship.Don't worry,don't be shy,just tell your true feelings to your friend,I think he or she must understand you.
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
Yeah it's hard, I know the feeling of friends being lovers that end up hating each other. Like what they say, once you cross that line you can never go back. That's the risk of taking that one step. In my experience, we're not talking for 6 months already, but I know I will live longer and who knows if one day we'll bump into each other and patch things up. Just wait, for now, stay back.
@lextoper (573)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
For me, there is no such thing as "too late". As long as we are alive, their is still chances to straighten our mistakes. All we need to do is to brave and face the consequences of our actions. Sometimes we are afraid to do so because we fared to accept hurting words from her/him. We should learn from it and avoid the things that will trigger it again in doing it so. I know its easy to say but I believe that not all that we face will change, but nothing changes until we face it.
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@rawm13 (51)
• Singapore
24 Jul 07
Do you guys believe in platonic friendship? Sometimes i believe that if its romance before it eventually ends up in friendship, that kinda platonic friendship will last, but if its the other way around, you got into a romantic relationship with your very close opposite gender friend, that relationship/friendship will not last.. So far, my experience is that true platonic friendship doesn't exist, it usually starts or culminates into a romantic relationship. Unless both of you are totally unattracted to each other. Which makes it hard for you two to become close friends at the start. Ok i'm contradicting myself..this issue is all about perspective...