How will you show your affection to your two daughters without jealousy.
By kampupot
@kampupot (18)
Philippines
July 25, 2007 11:28pm CST
I have two daughters whose ages are 29 and 28. I have difficulties in giving concern to each one of them. Especially in giving them responsibility at home now that they are already working. My eldest is responsible for our groceries while my youngest is responsible for the payment of electric and water bills. Sometimes my youngest complaint that she contributed more than my eldest. But when I explained to her that my eldest contributed more because groceries are costly than paying electric and water bills, she felt bad. It is very hard for me to divide my attention and affection to my two daughters. It is more easy when they are still kids. I bought them the same dress but different in color, the same shoes and whatever the other has the other has, too. But now, it's different, they already buy their needs, so, my problem now is how to deal with them squarely.
2 responses
@3superkids (446)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
I think that jealousy among or between our children is normal. In my experienced i've learned not to compare my children with each other. I believe that as a parent it is our obligation to treat our children equally. Starting from young age up to their adult years. From the eldest to the youngest. I think your younger daughter was hurt but explaining to her why you have to say what you said will ease whatever hard feeling she's having. But do compare your two daughters with each other. It is not fair for both of them and it may also cause problem between them. You could be tearing them apart.
@3superkids (446)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
sorry i meant..do not compare your two daughters with each other.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
26 Jul 07
I have to admit i was a little shocked when i read this discussion, i guess in this day & age i was a little surprised to hear that you have daughters of that age still living at home :)
All the people i know of that age are already out of home, most of them are married & manyhave children.
I think it's hard when they get older though :) I do have to ask though, are you relying on them too much for things? I only ask that because it seems as though you have them paying for everything but eventually, they wot be there any more & you'll have to cover all the bills you have them paying for now.
I think at that age, it would be much easier to treat them the same but you also need to treat them as individuals. Also at that age, i'm surprised they're complaining about what they have to pay for, i'd have thought they'd be more mature about the situation at almost 30 :)
