What would be your attitude if some loving one ....... "Un Desirable Action!!"

yeaH I HAVE SEEN THIS AND SO I UNDERSTAND UR FRIEND'S problem ,u know what i'm a mother of a 2.8 yr old girl yeah she is a baby in our eyes but i feel she is a little person who has her thoughts and way of doing things and choices and..... today even she hits me unknowingly i won't even notice because she is a baby but a day will come when her eye ball movement may disturb me,here don't u see double standard either we should treat children as children forever that means if i shout on my baby and she cries i'll go and hug her and say no baby its alright and u need to learn it ,or we should treat them and respect them as a person after all they are a person ,thats what i feel and so ur friend's parents are at mistake and ur friend is not as he is expecting the same hug and love what he had in childhood.

When we are young it is easy to "hate" our parents because we have only experienced being a child, not a parent. Once you have your own children you begin to truly appreicate what your parents went through. It is natural to chafe at the boundaries set by parents on our behavior. But as we mature we often discover that the very boundaries we hated were those that protected us from harm. It isn't easy to be a parent to teens and young adults and sometimes the frustration builds up to shouting. While it is better not to shout, it isn't going to have to be harmful, especially for older children/young adults. I advise children to be patient with their parents, to not let their parents behaviors toward them to keep them angry unless they are truly doing harm. If they are being beaten or molested, of course they must get protection. But if the worse thing you parent does is shout at you, you are blessed indeed.

I don;t speak to my parents anymore. And I probably never will again. They only bring me misery and pain. They talk down to me, tell me I am not good enough, and you can't have a relationship with them without strings attached. they treated me like dirt for 29 years, never learned to accept me for who I am, and certainly never learned how to just love someone. Everything has payment, with them. I don't like their morals, they are also racist and self righteous. I don't want them in my life! Granted, they have done much worse than just yell at me. but it isn't worth it to even talk to them. I haven't known peace until i STOPPED talking to them. Sure, they gave birth to me and put clothes on my back, but that doens't mean they were GOOD to me. Verbal abuse can be just as dangerous as neglect. I know parents find it appalling that their child would turn their back on them. but I did to mine, and I don't regret it. i finally get to be ME with no guilt, no insults, no control from them. And I love my life. They have not EARNED a place in my life.

"once his father shouted before him upon his misconduct" As I mentined above, I was shouted at by my father but that doesn't planted anger in my heart for him, and I took note your your friend said "once" and then he also said "upon his misconduct". I think it's no reason to be angry at your parents for al time just because they shouted at you once.Too shallow. If he becomes parent one day,he'll understand.

In my opinion, we cannot judge the dicision of your friend to keep away from his parents because of the shouting his father made. We do not know the exact words his father used or the nature of the 'misconduct' shown by your friend. Whatever may be the reason your friend could and must forgive his parents if they were in excessive shouting etc. and come back into terms with them. It will give him joy.

I would not ignore my parents because one of them yelled at me! Someimes parents lose their paience and raise their voices, but I don't think there are many parents who can say they did not! My Dad never raised his voice to us but my mom, lol, she was always upse over something. My dad is gone now and I miss him so much, there were so many things I wanted to tell him as an adult, I hope your friend does not miss his opportunity! Forgiveness can be healing for all.

I would definitely try to solve the thing in first place, peacefully. I would try to convince him that he/she was wrong. I would not let them bury that thing inside of them cuz they might make it a habit of their own. So, it would be better to tell him to analyze his actions, if he/she gets over it then I will try to comfort him/her. That's all Omer