Why do we hurt the people we love the most?
By vinzen
@vinzen (1020)
India
July 28, 2007 12:00pm CST
Why does it happen that no matter how hard we try to keep the relationships going good, somewhere down the line, we do tend to hurt the ones we love the most. We know that they have got hurt due to something which we mayve done unknowingly, but arent able to do anything about it. Any suggestions as to what we can do to prevent such situations.
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@dunnbiz (33)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 07
The reasons that you hurt the ones you love is because they are the closest to you and they just happened to be there when you are upset or angry. Victims of circumstances more than anything.
I had learned to choose my choices of words carefully when I am upset. Saying "Can I have sometime alone and I promise to talk about it when I cool down." instead of yelling "LEAVE ME ALONE!!!" is one of the most often used opening sentence when I got home upset.
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@deeanna17 (47)
• Northern Mariana Islands
29 Jul 07
Sometimes we dont have a clue how the people we love feels,but i belive that everything happens for a reason! Along the way we might,we just might realize that what we did is wrong but when ot comes down to it all whatever happens happens.
Sometimes its also just out of know where and then you find youself feeling all the blame,but still theres always a way to work things out and get along the way.
I hope that there is a way that could help you and i hope that nothingelse goes wrong along the way.
Good luck...!
@vinzen (1020)
• India
29 Jul 07
Hi, thanks for replying,. I wonder if we truly do love the person, why is it that we cannot feel what they are feeling too, after all what is love, to know what the others feeling, without having to be told , isnt it.? Love is a deep rooted feeling and emotion, and with it comes a lot of other things, we have to anylize all the things and then think, thanks anyways.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
29 Jul 07
I think we hurt the ones we love the most because we are so comfortable with those people that we just don't think. I have been hurt enough by people I love, that I stop to think, making sure I don't repeat the pattern and hurt someone else.
@sirfsuraz (468)
• Nepal
31 Jul 07
it happens most of the time. Love and hurt comes at the same time
