how do you get your partner to try new things

United States
July 30, 2007 10:31am CST
ok i am a female and it is hard for me to tell my other things that i like etc. or things i want to try and so forth. i have been married for 11 years now and to be honest we dont have issues with this part of our marriage. i mean we still act like a newly wed couple like that. its just sometimes i want to try something new but not sure how to say it or anything. he tells me all the time to say something but i just cant get myself to do it. he will do something that i like and i try to let him know without coming right out and saying it but then he doesnt do it again for awhile lol. maybe i am just strange and everyone else just says it. i dont know lol.
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@chargoans (940)
• United States
30 Jul 07
By all means, just throw out the embarassment or shyness. If you can't tell him, then kindly direct him as to what you want to try. If it something you can control, like a new position, get him worked up and then pose in the position you wanna try. One of my wallflower friends is a seductress in the bedroom, according to her hubby! If you knew this girl, it would totally shock you! :-)
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@vinzen (1022)
• India
31 Jul 07
Hi, well in a way you are lucky too that you have are still new to the marriage, the feeling is all new still, even after 11 years of marriage. Yes i can understand your problem, maybe youre the kind of a person whose reserved and shy right from the start, and you need to talk out and express your emotions and feelings and that is something you will have to do by yourself, to muster up the courage and comunicate your feelings to your partner. This will surely help you a lot, hope this suggestion helps you. And no you are not strange or weird as maybe youre let to believe, all will be well, just learn to slowly talk to your partner.
• United States
30 Jul 07
why not just get drunk and the words will come right out! lol. seriously.