Join My Pity Party!!!

@dmillman (2273)
United States
July 31, 2007 1:42pm CST
Hello everyone! I'm having a pity party, and you're all invited - if you want to join in. I'm having a bad year this year and want to vent. I know that I can't be the only person that's having a bad year, so I want to hear about your bad year too. I'm sick of hearing how everyone else is having such a great year this year, especially because mine stinks!!! January - my grandmother died, while I was holding her hand. February - got in an accident and messed up my back. March - found out that my other grandmother isn't doing well physically April - tried to help my grandmother-in-law and got the whole famdamily turned against me. May - went to the ER, thinking I was having a heart attack and it turned out to be an anxiety attack June - mind messed up from ER visit - can't think straight - can't work right, have to deal with the dam bills from the ER visit. July - sexually harassed by a co-worker, which turned into a big ordeal that's still in the process and ended up having another anxiety attack. August - (Gee, I can't wait! Good thing it starts with me on vacation!!!) I'm sure I missed a few things. But I'm sure that you get the point here. So please tell me how horrible you year is going too. If you're having a good year, don't come hear to boast or brag either. Be considerate of us having a bad year - thank you!!!
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@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
1 Aug 07
oh my goodness you did have a rough trot. fingers crossed the rest of it will be good for you. jan/feb/ march was unemployed and no money in march (some people on mylot already know) i lost dogs, which were both poisoned. 1 was mine which i considered her as my daughter and 1 was my father dog. april my partner farm crop started dying which cost hima fortune. all months (even last yr) up until mid july i have had an ovary infection which always very painful 24/7 june/july and atm i have had the flue, which i have had cramps and all in my legs but there more but ill stop there lol. as yesty my sister had a baby boy and im hoping from now on everything will be good for me and my family.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Thanks for your post, and your hope for me to have a good August. I was unemployed for 9 months until I started working where I am now in March. I also had to COBRA my health insurance, and it was over $1,000/month and I wasn't collecting unemployment. This all added to the financial problems that I had prior to this year. I forgot all about the unemployment part until I read your post. I guess I was trying to block it out.
• Australia
1 Aug 07
oh so sorry to hear that, and sorry i reminded you.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
2 Aug 07
It's OK now, don't worry about it.
@PunkyMcPunk (1477)
• Canada
31 Jul 07
Here is my sob story, now I want you to know that I have read everyone elese posts and they are far worse than mine, So I do want to tell you all i feel your pain, my worst year happened in 2003 but it's over.... In January my gran went to the hospital, she had had a stroke and fell down 32 stairs (she had been refusing to move out of the family home even though we all knew something like this would happen stubborn lady!!!) She broke her pelvis, her elbow/arm, and her ribs. February ran into an OLD childhood friend who needed help, helped him out in March he tried to ruin my life and spread ALL kinds of rumours, hacked my facebook and myspace contacted my boyfriend with LIES etc.... (now I no longer do facebook, myspace, or whatever elese, just mylots), April my boyfriend started having money problems and although I work I had NO way to help him out at all. I got to sit there and watch him writhe in financial agony and not be able to help AT ALL, May-my parents got sued (past bill-non-payment) used all my pay cheques to try and help-it wasn't enough, watched them drowning and had no way to help them even though they have done so much for me, June, July, my finances went askew (only slightly) and it took a lot to get them back in order, now in August it looks like my parents are gonna be sued again and I can't help them, my hunnie may be evicted, I hate my job, etc.... Man, if I was rich, I could help everyone. I know I haven't had much happen to me but it is horrid to watch the people you love suffer.
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Thank you for your post, and for reading everyone else's. I'm glad that you didn't have the bad year, and I'm sorry to hear about the bad that those you love have had. Yes, it does stink to watch those close to you have a bad time. It's even worse when you can't even help them. It makes you feel bad because it isn't that bad for you, but there is absolutely no way that you can help them.
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
1 Jan 08
You're welcome. Sorry about your grandmother.
@nangel78 (1454)
• United States
1 Aug 07
I am sorry to hear about all of that you are dealing with. Yes it has been a hard year. I lost my great grandmother to cancer in January. I was in a car accident in March. I still have to repair my car from that. My car was in the shop last month and again now. Let's see the AC was broken this week when it gets hot after all of the rain we have had. Oh and I had a nervous breakdown a few weeks ago. So yes this year has been difficult. We will all make it. I have faith in all of us here. We all need to vent though every now and then. It is healthy and sometimes cry even.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Thanks for your kind words. I'm sorry to hear about your problems too. I love your positive attitude, so thanks for sharing it with us!!!
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
24 Feb 08
After reading your list, I don't feel so bad. There has to be some light shining through that tunnel of darkness. While I can relate to bad things happening, it is hard for me to remain depressed about them. Secretly though, I think there are some bad events that still haunt me from decades ago. Somehow or somewhere, I got the feeling that I could do nothing to overcome certain difficulties. Is is strange to want to cry about something that happened so long ago? I thought I let them go awhile back. Now. I am not so sure.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
25 Feb 08
Thanks for responding. Look at my next comments for updates of even more information.
• United States
29 Feb 08
I will join your pity party because I am having a very very bad life. I will end up alone because the one I live says she doesn't love me in that way anymore. I don't have a life at all. I really don't care what happens to me that's how I can do stuff that could hurt people without being scared, becaause I really don't care what happens to me. I started to care for the sake of my love, but not anymore.
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• United States
29 Feb 08
Thank you for that into and I am glad they are slowly letting you work again.
@BethTN81 (564)
• United States
1 Aug 07
everyone had hardships, you arent the only one. it COULD be worse. i guess when i think about it i have had a pretty bad year too but i choose not to look at it that way. when i am feeling down and i think my life sucks i think about what i do have going for me. my son, my job, my family, my boyfriend, my friends. when i look at life that way, i am lucky to be alive. about 2 months ago, i was at the point of ending it all, then i looked up, realized that i have a son i have to raise, i have a mother that is sick with cancer and she needs me to help care for her. i have a boss who would hate to replace me and i have friends who need my help when they cant go to anyone else. i have alot to live for, and i know that now. what does not kill you makes you stronger, cheesey saying but it is true. hand in there, you will make it, at least you found a place like this where you can talk to strangers and they will not judge you, even if they do, they are strangers, who cares what they think lol.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Thank you for your positive twist, but not being so positive that it's annoying. I'm sorry to hear of your problems, but I congradulate you on your positive view to life now. I just wish I could be like that too. Thanks for posting.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
31 Jul 07
My ex started having an affair with the only friend (besides him) that I had in the state of Colorado last year. He married her in December. I found out in January. He said it was a mistake and he wanted to work things out so we stayed together till the end of January when she told me that they were still together. He moved out and said he needs to decide what he wants to do at the end of January. My son was diagnosed with Autism in February. We were evicted in June because while he's "figuring out what he wants" I'm not getting any kind of child support and I can't work because I have no car and no one to take care of my son. I haven't been out of the house without my son since June 6, 2006. The last time I talked to this woman she said "I know he's gonna do the same thing to me, but at least I get to be married." Since her husband left her 3 years ago, all she's said is "I just want to be married again, I don't care who it's to." They broke up last September when her other boyfriend made her get a restraining order against him (my ex). A week later she announced on myspace that she was getting married that month. So she tossed him aside so she could marry her first choice and when that didn't work out (he backed out), she called on her backup plan. And my ex is essentially abandoning me and his son so he can be someone's second choice. Yeah, it's been a sh!t year.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
31 Jul 07
WOW! That stinks! It's always harder to deal with things when there is a child involved. I know of many people that are going through similar things. I keep saying they should start a support group. Thanks for posting. Doesn't it feel good to vent your frustrations though???