How can you tell if he is the right one?

courtship - man courting a woman
Philippines
August 2, 2007 6:32am CST
Ok here it goes.. I have a chat mate who is a foreigner (egyptian). I met him in one of the chat rooms. From the first time we met he's been true to me, I can feel that every word he says is true. He's 35 and he's a Lawyer. He's working in one of the big company in middle east. He's a very frank and straight man. I already saw him in cam and I shared him a picture of mine. Since then we've been talking everyday and from the first time he saw me (picture only) he's been telling me that he really likes me. Yesterday I showed myself to him in cam for just a seconds. To make the story short he's courting me now. We've been talking for only 6 days and he's been assuming that I like him too. I made it clear to him that for now I consider him my friend. In his status of life can you tell me if he is the right man? We have different nations and different religion (I'm a catholic and he's a christian). He always tell me that I'm the one he's been praying for to God. I don't know if he's telling the truth because in his statement to me he never had a gf before because he is a shy type person but in his conversation with me I don't think he's that type of person because he is frank and very straight in words. I ask him that why he is different to me? then he said because we're not talking in person. I've been praying to God to give me the right man then this man came. And one more thing, my mom doesn't want me to marry a foreigner. I want to know this man better and give him a chance because he might be the one i've been praying for. Can you help me on what to do to find out if he's the one? and how will I know if he's telling me the truth? It's really hard to tell especially here in the net right?=) So, Thanks for the response in advance!=)
2 responses
• United States
2 Aug 07
It's still too early to tell. You've only been talking to him for less than a week! And that is only online...not in person. People can be so different in person. I think you should just be straight with him. Tell him that you think he's a nice person and that you would like to take it slow and take time to know him. If he's not willing to wait and do the same..then, he's not the one for you. And you won't really know until you meet the person for real. If he's really interested in you and serious about you, distance will not be a problem for him. He will come to see you in your country. If he's not willing to even do that, then he's not really into you.
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
Hi! Yes your right, it's really hard to trust somebody you just meet in the net. Thanks for the very honest advice I'll do it and tell it to him. Thank you so much, you're a big help to me.. =) Take care! =)
• United States
4 Aug 07
Also, always trust your instincts. They will always tell you the truth about someone. Don't just listen to your heart but also think, be realistic, practical and wise. I know that's hard to do especially when feelings are involved. But at such an early stage of the relationship and also with the distance and method of meeting, it's good to be guarded. But I do know of many online relationships with very happy endings. All the best to you!
@xmichx (109)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
It's too early to know if his the right guy. I believe that you should make your decision only after you meet him. You should not judge him by words that he has spoken you may be decieve. He may not be the person that he says he is.