Love, three types of love ...
By rhonerlianz
@rhonerlianz (173)
Malaysia
August 5, 2007 4:15am CST
Basically, there are three types of love. The first one is self-centered. A person with this type of love want everything for themselves at the first place. They think of others as the next priority. The second type is two ways love. A person with this love always want to expect something else from others. They do something in order to get something else. The third one is Agape. This is the best love of all. This love focus on others without expecting for something else. I don't know which one is mine, but I have all three, different type of love for different type of people ...
4 responses
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
i guess i've been loved by other people on all types of love you have just mentioned.. ;)
the second love i think is a love that a person never tought he/she is loving like that.. it is very hard to admit that sometimes people do love others because they want to be loved also. and they set expectations on how their love must return.
well... i also had been like that before i met my boyfriend now.. but now i already know what true love really means.. its like the love of a mother for her child/children..
we shall love others because we trully do and not because we also need to be loved...
but we should also set limits on what we give and do for love.. ;)
@rhonerlianz (173)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 07
The second type of love is sometimes not easy to realized, because it grow silently. I would like to response about a love of mother and child as you discuss earlier. That love is strong, but sometimes ... I'm sad to know that some mother kill the baby ... you know young mother, love to make baby but in the end, abuse it, SAD. Why do baby that know nothing should be killed ... I just don't get it.
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
oh well.. they are not real mothers because in the first place they dont want to be a mother. we may not understand them since they think of themselves only.
it may be a result of emotional distress or other cause. if we'll listen their views of point.. they dont want to be bad... they may just doesnt understand the importance of a good mother for children.. or maybe they were not emotional prepared when they had the child. they may enjoy making it and they took the risk believing that they will not suffer. hopefully instead of judging them let us understand them first and soon afterwards they will understand us who believes that a mother should always have the purest love for their children
@whianne (17)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
i don't know where my love belongs..bec. i found it very hard especially on priorities... i might sound crazy but this is what i feel.. i know i'm not his priority and sometimes i go crazy.. how will i manage it well, i'm just kinda paranoid.. no time for me.. he always work and no time for us..i nag him, get angry all the time.. ='(
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
hmp.. i guess... you dont have to force your self if you cant understand him.. all you have to do is to keep on trying to make things better between you and him.
nagging and getting angry all the time might make the situation get worse.. so you have to tell it to him nicely first and keep on talking to him of what you really feel.. ask what are his plans for your relationship to grow.. and be patient on his attitude.
if you really love him you will understand him and soon afterward... he will be the one to understand your needs as his partner...
goodluck and have a nice day
@Shustme (33)
• United States
5 Aug 07
I have most of my life been focusing on others without expecting back, now I'm more into myself, I am learning to be more selfish and think of me first and thinking of others as a next priority, also looking at situations to see how the other person usually thinks they will benefit so that I can look at the situations to see how I will benefit... I've had enough and I'm putting myself first this time, with friends and everyone...
Love myself first :)
@bharatibajaj (133)
• India
6 Aug 07
Hi!But ofcourse, the third 'AGAPE' as you have mentioned is the BEST.Do your best to have only this.Only when we do not expect anything from anyone,we are free from disappointments & we do not give room for negative feelings like HATE, ANGER, REVENGE & so on.Be self-independent, self-sufficient & self-satisfied, LOVE everyone & accept them as they are...LIFE moves on smoothly!!
GOD BLESS!!
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