Do you ever wonder how your life would be different?

I belive that everything happends for a reason and that if you are happy NOW with what you have NOW you should not wonder "what if..." You only do harm...

I sometimes wonder about the same things regarding school, only mine turned out differently. I was born Dec. 11 so I was past the deadline also. However, when I started kindergarten, I was the only student in my grade in my small country school. So the teacher had me do the classwork with the 1st graders. When I was in 1st grade, I did the classwork with the 2nd graders. Then when I would have been in the 2nd grade, the school board just allowed me to be in the 3rd grade since I would be taking that work anyway. So I was never officially in the 2nd grade. That put me a year ahead of others my age. I was always the youngest in my class. I wonder how much better I could have done in sports with one more year of growing up (I was always the shortest in my class also) and how relationships and classes would have gone with one more year of maturity. I turned out alright, did well in sports and classes, but I wonder....

This is a good topic. Thanks for discussing this. A movie I like that approaches this question is "Sliding Doors" with Gwyneth Paltrow. I highly recommend it. I think this has happened to all of us. We wonder what would have happened when we were at certain turning points and what that decision may have been. Obviously we make the decisions we make because it seems like the most plausible choice for us to make.

I wonder, but it's usually that my life would be worse if I were to change a factor of it. I really like my life the way it is now, although there are a few things I wouldn't mind changeing!

Yes everynow and then a past event will pop into my head, sometimes minor sometimes more substantial, and it gets me thinking 'What if',but then i guess that can be said for everything in life so i try not to think to deeply about it or i'll end up analysing what cereal i am buying lol. I do however partly believe that everything we do changes the course of our lives even if only in a tiny way , a bit like the butterfly effect.

Heck yeah. I know we supposedly have a map all drawn out of our lives but I often wonder if things were different what my life would be like now. For instance, I worked for a large magazine and was doing very well. When the company was sold, I was offered a position on the magazine staff at another very large place that bought the company. I said no because it meant I would have had to move to Connecticut. But if I had said yes....where would I be now? Would I be on top of the world with a great job and climbing the ladder of success? Or would I be miserable? Also, before my husband asked me to marry him, I was still really in love with my ex. He had decided to go back to HIS ex. Long story short, I did get married and had two kids. But right before my wedding, my ex contacted me and said he didn't want me to get married, he loved me, and he was willing to do anything to get back together. I thought long and hard about it all and chose my husband. But I sometimes wonder how things would be different if I had chosen my ex. I hear he ended up getting married and divorced and was not too happy in general. I have been married for over 20 years with 2 kids I cherish so I suppose I shouldn't wonder but I can't help but to. Lots of things ... what if my dad hadn't drank when I was a kid and was supportive and loving? Would I be different now? I guess everything that happened, happened for a reason but some things seem to have no reason for happening if you ask me. Good topic :)